Breaking the habit

When i was young my mother and father got a divorce. basically my father was an abusive man. so growing up i lived with my mother.

my mother got remarried when i was around eight years old. that relationship lasted three years.

so as a child growing up i learned that men where incapable of love. i when to a therapist often as a teenager. i was often told a had trust issues.

the thing is i don't know how to open my self up to a man without fear that he will be just like my father.

ANY ADVICE?

Is It Normal?
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  • Trust develops over time. Don't rush it.

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  • watch the way he interacts with his family and children for a start

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  • Not sure that is a habit, perhaps a cycle.

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  • it all depends on how the first relationship u ever seen because u birth father was an abusive man it may be hard at first but eventually trust will grow on you.

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  • To be honest I'm not abusive but I have been told I'm intimidating. I have been knowen to loose my temper I don't mean to it happens. Most men are like this don't know why and I really try not to be. It will make it,hard foreign you to trust us but if you do find someone you can trust it will be worth it.

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  • Just hold your cards close to your chest for a while. Dont risk getting hurt early on babes

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  • Look for those kinda guys that are good to their mother.

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  • Just don't stay with someone that emulates your abusive father.

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