Boyfriend told me to return clothes

borderline.. Could go either way with this one.. Could be controlling or could be true concern.

Wow sounds more like a pimp to me

Was the money needed for bills or something that needed to be done? If not, then keep the duds. Be financially responsible, and set aside bill, rent, or food monies before indulging in yourself. What ended up being done with the cash? If he took it to buy crack with, be sure then to always buy clothes and then cut the tags off the insides before he sees them- then you can't take them back!

Yeah I'm not impressed - what kind of relationship do you have/want to have? Surely you are old enough to handle money, a budget and shopping. And if not, then having some boyfriend "run" you is no better/improvement.

And I agree with ^^^ that it sounds more like control. If you enjoy being controlled, and like guys who want to control you, you may be in for a rather unpleasant ride.

Best to take responsibility for yourself.

that's completely abnormal :\ if it was your own money, then you can spend it on whatever you want to, as long as you still have enough money to pay bills (if you don't live with your parents)

Well, I would not want my bf controlling me (if you returned them in fear of his anger, he is controlling you. If you returned them because you agreed with him, different story). If he wants to be helpful, he can gently point out your problems and be supportive of when you try to do better. But to scare you with anger is not something I would want in a bf.

He is the best bf eveeeeerrrrt

If u have a shopping problem, than ya he should get mad to hear u spent so much on clothes.

Good bf sereously good he cares

It sounds VERY normal. Actually BETTER than normal. That's what a man does when he cares about you. Obviously a 19 doesn't need to be spending $220 on clothes (she admitted she had a shopping problem ppl). She likely doesn't make the kind of money where that would be a smart move. He's obviously better with money, he is just watching out for you and helping you be more responsible. You are lucky to have a man who cares about you enough to do what he did. A weaker man wouldn't stand up and do what he did and you'd both be worse off. Think about it

$220 is a lot for a 19 year old to spend on a whim on clothes. Other factors go into this too such as: Do you have a job? Do you pay bills? Do you buy clothes more than once a month? Do you need clothes?
Answer key:
He is controlling if yes, no, no, yes
He is right if no, n/a, yes, no
Just a thought

If you needed new clothes and you had the money available (all bills paid) then it's your money to spend. If you didn't need the stuff you got and still have things to be paid then he may have a point.

If it was like $1000, maybe, but $220 isn't a big deal. So I'd say not normal.

Wow 220$..hes a good bf if he cares
About you enough to make sure you are financialy safe