Boyfriend (44) puts his exes above me and i am sick of it
I am currently dating a guy who has put his 2 ex girlfriends above me. He has changed quite a bit in the last 6 months as I actually broke up with him because of this, but we are now back together.
He said he was going to donate his kidney to his ex who is also a friend because she has a kidney disease. While I want her to have a kidney I feel it ties them together someone how and it just honestly does not feel right. I can be controlling but it is because I have had to put up with him crashing on the couch of one of his ex's (they are now platonic but play music together in a band). I finally told him he needs to get counseling for these codependent relationships he is in with his ex'x. The thing that bothered me the most was that his ex's never apologized to me about any of this or even CAME CLEAN about the fact that they were ok with him putting them first. I am so upset even though he has changed a lot. Like he does not sleep at any of their houses anymore. I still feel a lot of pent up anger for putting up with it for 2.5 years.
Is this normal??? Should I break up with him because he will forever be tied to them? I feel like I sometimes really HATE these two other older women (in their 50s). I am in my early 30s.