As everyone else has said, no, you are not genetically programmed to make the same choices that your parents have.
Something you should be aware of, though, is that we all pick up ideas of how relationships should work from what we observe going on between our parents when we're kids. We can also end up with deeply embedded ideas of how someone of our sex should behave in a relationship by what we see the parent of our sex doing and saying in their relationship(s). That could be seen as a type of programming, but once you gain the maturity to see your parents as just people who are doing their best, it's possible to recognise that some of their behaviour isn't positive, understand that you have (apparently) inexplicable urges to do the same, and decide that you'll choose another path.
You don't say anything about how your parents have dealt with the infidelity, but what you've seen there could be good lessons for you on how you should or should not deal with conflict in relationships.
Finally, you should be aware that while you may believe you understand what's going on between your parents in their relationship, it's very likely you do not. In all relationships, there are undercurrents that are never spoken of, and it's very common for those actually in the relationship to not fully understand what's truly going on, and why they and their partner do and say what they do.
Both my parents are cheaters
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As everyone else has said, no, you are not genetically programmed to make the same choices that your parents have.
Something you should be aware of, though, is that we all pick up ideas of how relationships should work from what we observe going on between our parents when we're kids. We can also end up with deeply embedded ideas of how someone of our sex should behave in a relationship by what we see the parent of our sex doing and saying in their relationship(s). That could be seen as a type of programming, but once you gain the maturity to see your parents as just people who are doing their best, it's possible to recognise that some of their behaviour isn't positive, understand that you have (apparently) inexplicable urges to do the same, and decide that you'll choose another path.
You don't say anything about how your parents have dealt with the infidelity, but what you've seen there could be good lessons for you on how you should or should not deal with conflict in relationships.
Finally, you should be aware that while you may believe you understand what's going on between your parents in their relationship, it's very likely you do not. In all relationships, there are undercurrents that are never spoken of, and it's very common for those actually in the relationship to not fully understand what's truly going on, and why they and their partner do and say what they do.
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Thank you...this really helped