Blending issues

I have been seeing my gf for about a year. She has a 2 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. I have two boys, (4 and 7) along with a 5 year old girl. We started blending our children slowly by doing things together here and there. Everything was going really well. The kids were getting along so my girlfriend offered to watch them during the day while I was at work. This was how it was until my daughter accused my gf's son of "some things". Apparently he picked her up and carried her to the bathroom, locked the door and exposed himself to her. Then he tried to take her pants off but couldn't. My little girl said she tricked him into unlocking the door by saying she would take her pants off if he unlocked the door. When he did she ran. My daughter also stated that he was going to do the same thing to my youngest son. Upon finding out, my childrens mother (who I have an awesome relationship with) and I cut all contact with my gf's kids. This was 5 months ago. My kids like my gf and her daughter but hate her son. Understandable. I kinda feel the same. Her son has been seeing a therapist for that and some anger issues as well. The gf wants to move forward but I dont think I can. I'm ready to cut my losses and move forward on my own. The therapist says he's all clear but I'm not convinced. I like my girlfriend but I like my kids more. Anyone ever deal with something like this? Am I wrong in my thinking?

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think you have good judgement, and that whatever you do you should put your own natural kids first!

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    I think that's probably the right move. Imagine if he gets bad again and tries to do it again in 5 years time when he's more matured, he could rape her.

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  • My kids have always come first. My daughter seems fine but I know she hasn't forgot. Her mom and I are very supportive and will make whatever resources available should she need them. I told my gf that there would be no future with us after what happened. Her and I have been in a holding pattern anyway. I've been waiting for this therapist to tell me something for a while. I was expecting steps, or a program. Something. I wasn't expecting the therapist to tell me that he's totally fine. I can clearly see that he is not. That is not good enough for me and damn sure not good enough for my kids. I thank everyone for telling me what I already knew. I just needed to hear it from someone else.

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  • Ellenna

    I agree with RoseIsabella: your own kids have to come first with you. Does your daughter need professional help too? It wouldn't be surprising if she did, because even though she dealt with the situation very well at the time there may be lasting effects.

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  • Hotdogsaregross

    You said you "like" the girlfriend. So if you only just like her then yes it's definitely not worth it.
    It's best to keep your little children safe. I feel so bad for your daughter. It was a scary situation for her.

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  • If you stay together, don’t procreate. But you should end it as your kids and their safety should be your highest priority.

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