Birthdays suck

Yeah and I bet they expect you to organize the new years thing to boot.

OK - I think you need to lay it on the line with your lazy-assed and inconsiderate family because you are definitely being ripped off & neglected. And my suggestion is this (crazy but...):

Threaten to go on strike for every holiday event, save the money, and, buy yourself a fabulous birthday (not new year's) travel package to wherever you'd like to go to celebrate YOUR birthday.

You will save money because they probably count on you to do all these things (which cost $) for THEM.

But hell, you deserve something. Make it happen for yourself, and teach them a lesson about their selfishness. Now how sweet is that?

Yes, they do suck. I have not had a proper birthday celebration since I turned 5 or 6. My family felt that I didn't need anymore birthday parties because I was older and I had had big celebrations when I was a child. This was the excuse I got when I was near turning 16 and I wanted a "sweet 16". Never got it. In the past, I would frequently beg my family to let my friends come over for a party. They would make up every excuse in the book to prevent me from getting this like, accusing me of lying about the existence of my friends, etc.
No one seems to remember my birthday. I remember theirs. I don't know why this is.

I think this is terrible. Regardless of whether or not a person is young or old, their life should still be celebrated.

I was 50..3 days ago , did my so called best friend remember NO.....I never really liked my birthday always got my prezzie (money) off my estranged father at the beginning of December, every one when I was growing up was too busy with family christmas stuff to be bothered or broke!! Then in my 20's I lived with my astrological twin for 8 years he didn't like his birthday either so he never liked mine either, his son by a previous partner had died at 2 on Christmas day so he was never really in a mood to celebrate 2 days later which I did understand and understand even more now as years later in my 30's I had a partner die on my birthday so do I really want to celebrate No but I do try and make an effort would be nice if my teenage daughter would remmeber or at least give me a card with a coffee but NO....this year no card from my daughter and No Happy Birthday from my supposedly best mate who only lives across the road......she knocked this afternoon , couldn't bring myself to open the door still abit raw at having been forgotten not too sure just what I would have said or done......so hope she doesn't need a lift ever again to visit her aging mother who is in a nursing home in the next town, her family can take her and if they have all had a drink she will have to wait!!! Not really bitter but you get what you give and if thats crap well guess what s coming back!!
Next year I am going away alone!!!
One friend did call but by that time I had gone out, my teenager refused to, so off to the movies by myself...saw them the following day, they made the mistake of asking if I had had a good birthday!! She had asked my so called best mate if we were going to do any thing for my birthday a few weeks ago, going out for a meal was suggested, not oh lets just forget it!!!
They very kindly made me a cake which nearly reduced me to tears as it was such a nice jesture and so foreign!! lol

Oh, I thought you meant that average Birthdays suck. I think every birthday party sucks even if I do get presents or a cake or have a thousand dollars spent on me. I just don't have a great time. That's exactly why I told my mum, I don't want to celebrate my B-day anymore and she stopped when I was 10. Complete waste of money.

I've never really liked my birthday that much :/ I just don't see it different from any other day of the year- it's not like things will or should miraculously change for you to remember the day you were born- isn't a new baby born every few seconds or something? Any way, just my viewpoint. I don't think it's negative, but most peopl find it to be.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! :D

Do they get you anything on your birthday? I guess with all the other, er, festivities, it's easy to lose track, BUT that's no excuse to forget about someone you love. Maybe because it's been so long and you haven't said anything (I think?) everyone else assumes that you simply don't want to celebrate your birthday and that you don't want the attention.

Next time, drop a couple of hints that yes! You do in fact want to be treated on your birthday. Hmmm, I not sure how you would - perhaps if you see a delicious cake you make a comment on how you'd love a birthday cake like that. Maybe someone else has better ideas haha.

Still, I'm with you. You're right, you shouldn't have to fight for attention on the one day that everyone has an excuse to treat you. A good meal and a cake sounds excellent :) I personally don't like the idea of a massive, stress inducing party, that's why I usually don't do much on mine.