People come on here and tell everyone their problems all the time. You act like that's something new. Maybe OP wanted advice or maybe she just wanted to vent. But are you in any position as a human being to judge her for doing so? I think not.
I just wish she was out of our lives. This isn't the first time she has hurt him. She's supposed to be his mother and so against me, but I have never hurt him and she does all the time. I support his happiness instead of what she wants him to be. I feel like he's a grown man and he can choose any career, beliefs or lack thereof he's happiest with. I don't like his mother because she doesn't care if he's happy and she only wants to control him, manipulate him and hurt him emotionally.
I think you should just give it time. By the sound of it, his mom is toxic but like you said he has to make these kinds of choices for himself. If you start speaking with him against her, it might make you look like the bad guy because he obviously still loves her and cares what she thinks. All you can do is be there to support him like you have been doing.
I do want advice. Sorry if my post didn't make it clear. Maybe it was also to vent... but thanks. I hate when people try to attack my questions instead of helping. I usually just scroll right past their trolls and ignore them. I don't make a huge scene about it because there isn't anyone on here worth arguing with.
WTF are you talking about? I didn't judge the OP. And where you get the idea that I'm "acting like its something new" is bizarre at the very least.
The situation is what it is every one here saying its not normal for her to act that way isn't going to change how she acts. Apparently for the mother in law it IS normal thats why shes doing it. Whether its normal or not isn't relevant to finding a solution.
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People come on here and tell everyone their problems all the time. You act like that's something new. Maybe OP wanted advice or maybe she just wanted to vent. But are you in any position as a human being to judge her for doing so? I think not.
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My husband is hurting from her words and I can't make him feel better. What do I do?
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Maybe don't talk to her anymore? I doubt she'll change her mind about him. Maybe when she's cooled down about it she'll be able to talk.
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I just wish she was out of our lives. This isn't the first time she has hurt him. She's supposed to be his mother and so against me, but I have never hurt him and she does all the time. I support his happiness instead of what she wants him to be. I feel like he's a grown man and he can choose any career, beliefs or lack thereof he's happiest with. I don't like his mother because she doesn't care if he's happy and she only wants to control him, manipulate him and hurt him emotionally.
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I think you should just give it time. By the sound of it, his mom is toxic but like you said he has to make these kinds of choices for himself. If you start speaking with him against her, it might make you look like the bad guy because he obviously still loves her and cares what she thinks. All you can do is be there to support him like you have been doing.
I do want advice. Sorry if my post didn't make it clear. Maybe it was also to vent... but thanks. I hate when people try to attack my questions instead of helping. I usually just scroll right past their trolls and ignore them. I don't make a huge scene about it because there isn't anyone on here worth arguing with.
WTF are you talking about? I didn't judge the OP. And where you get the idea that I'm "acting like its something new" is bizarre at the very least.
The situation is what it is every one here saying its not normal for her to act that way isn't going to change how she acts. Apparently for the mother in law it IS normal thats why shes doing it. Whether its normal or not isn't relevant to finding a solution.
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Asking "is it normal" on a site called Is It Normal is to be expected. Or did you forget the name of the site?
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Nope. Did you read the OP or my response? Reading comprehension is important.
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Either way, I was more helpful than you were. You just stated the obvious. Of course it wasn't going to help. But that's the name of the site.
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Oh no... it is competition? I wad not know that. Thank you for clarify. So helpful.