Bfs mad that i don’t pay rent because i stay

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my bf is mad because i don’t pay rent at his apartment. I DONT LIVE AT HIS APARTMENT I LIVE AT MY PARENTS HOUSE. he never wants to come to me, i always drive to him. he lives 30 minutes away. plus i only am over there thurs-sunday. i pay for my groceries, and stuff i want. he tells me to clean his disgusting place because he’s too lazy to and gets mad when i say i don’t want to. i told him it’s ridicoulus he wants me to pay rent at a place i don’t even live at and he said, “no what’s ridiculous is you saying here half the week and not cleaning or paying rent.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago | pl

    You've written about this before already. Why haven't you followed anyone's advice about dumping this useless burden of a human being?

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    • Boojum
      4 years ago

      I've concluded that this is one of those situations that proves the truth in the old saying "You can't fix stupid".

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        4 years ago

        I'm thinking OP is a masochist that likes hearing people call her stupid, which is probably why she keeps posting about this. At this point, I'm pretty sure this whole saga of hers is made up anyway. XD

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        • charli.m
          4 years ago

          This.

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        • IvanRoberts
          4 years ago

          Definitely

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        I think I've heard that phrase on the Redneck Comedy tour show specials. The phrase reminds me of Ron White.

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      • McBean
        4 years ago

        It's also difficult to fix "Entitled". Implied payments for sexual services are usually made from the male to the female. But in this case, it would seem reasonable to me that she should wash her own panties, and help with a bit of the cooking.

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        • Boojum
          4 years ago

          No argument from me on that point, and I think that attitude is fucked up. But the OP has been posting the same old stuff on her toxic relationship with a guy who's obviously a total dickwad for months.

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          • McBean
            4 years ago

            Agreed. Getting a bit late over there on the Sceptered Isle. Sleep tight, and see you tomorrow.

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    • Nikclaire
      4 years ago

      I was about to say this looks familiar. Seems like nothing has changed in almost a year since it was posted before.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Um hmm... I know dat's right!!!

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Isn't this the dude that's on drugs?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      ye

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        You've been coming here for maybe two years now, and this guy is still an awful jerk. Your life will improve if you dump this guy, and go no contact. This awful guy that you are so hung up on will never improve. It's only gotten progressively worse.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    You're not obligated to pay rent unless your name's on the contract. As long as you clean up your messes, you shouldn't have to do anything else. If he cares so much, try to stay there less often, so he won't have any points he can make in his argument. By his logic, you'd only have to pay for 2/7 of the rent anyways, so you chipping that in wouldn't do too much for his financial status.

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    • LloydAsher
      4 years ago

      Finally someone here with some logical analysis of the contract of the relationship! As a person with a roommate who is gone 90% of the time I normally take care of all the expendable utilities (toilet paper, air freshener cleaning supplies etc) since both are names are on the contract for the rent. I dont complain about his messes in his room as I thoroughly enjoy the freedom of having my own apartment.

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      • Boojum
        4 years ago

        You listing air freshener as an essential expendable made me laugh. An advantage of living alone is that you don't smell your own stink, so that's a cost saver.

        It sounds like your arrangement means you've got the best of both worlds.

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        • LloydAsher
          4 years ago

          Precisely. I know expendable essentials is a bit odd of wording but its apt for the context. Just because I live mostly alone doesnt mean I dont enjoy some pine forest auromatics.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        I love living alone!

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        • leggs91200
          4 years ago

          I think i am one of the few people who doesn't like living alone. I have a room mate and sure we butt heads at times but I just do not like living alone when I have had to. Over my life, I think I have lived alone collectively 2.5 years with the longest span being two years.

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            Do you have a dog, or cat?

            I think the only time that I had a roommate was for a while, like off and on when I lived in the dorms.

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            • leggs91200
              4 years ago

              my mom left behind a dog, he is still about but I am not real close with him.
              Not sure what breed exactly, he looks exactly like an icelandic sheepdog but is 20 pounds bigger than one. They top out at 30 lb, mine is 50 lb.

              Kind of looks like this -

              https://sooluciona.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/Pai%CC%81s-de-origen-de-la-raza-pastor-islande%CC%81s.jpg

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          what’s ur zodiac sign?

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            I'm a Scorpio, why do you ask?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Dump him! It's not normal to stay with a shitty, selfish guy who treats treats you like crap.

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    • raisinbran
      4 years ago

      He wants her to dump him, and treat her like crap until she does. Since this same question was asked a year ago, it looks like his plan didn't work.

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      • LloydAsher
        4 years ago

        Some guys dont have the balls to straight up dump someone so they make the environment so toxic that she will dump him.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          he doesn’t want that

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          • Boojum
            4 years ago

            Or maybe you're just determined to believe he doesn't want that.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        I think he's a narcissistic abuser.

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        • LloydAsher
          4 years ago

          That too, that could also be it. Or he doesnt understand how basic contracts work. His name is the only one on the lease. She doesnt take that much time on the property so in all definitions she doesnt have to pay the rent.

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            I think he's just a scumbag who is entitled, and likes to take advantage of other people. He obviously takes advantage of his parents. If OP should pay rent to anyone it should be his parents not him. He's just an opportunistic piece of garbage. I can never understand why this chick stays with him. The best thing that could happen to her would be if he just relapsed, and died of an overdose. However, I rather suspect that she would just find another piece of garbage to latch onto unfortunately. I think this whole mess is very sad, but the only way out of it is through it.

            I have heard OP say on occasion that this guy is the only one who is willing to put up with her crap, and I think it's very sad. The best thing for her to do in addition to getting away from this guy would be for her to work on her issues. I think she needs a get some CBD a.k.a. cognitive behavioral therapy, and try to work on her character defects. I think she should start going to CODA/Codependents Anonymous meetings.

            Sadly recovery is for people who want it, and not necessarily those who need it. Lots of people get sober from lots of things, but it's because they want it, and are willing to work at it. I wouldn't be surprised if her boyfriend is an alcoholic, and at least has a mental addiction to marijuana, and pornography. Just because he got off of heroin, doesn't mean he's sober from everything. I personally think this girl needs to go into recovery herself for codependency.

            That's just my opinion of course.

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  • Ichabuskene
    4 years ago

    Get out of that entire situation.

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    • LloydAsher
      4 years ago

      She already posted about this before any kind of advice is obviously falling on deaf ears.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        It's really sad.

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        • LloydAsher
          4 years ago

          Is it though? Could be worse of a relationship could be better. In all likelihood hes just being a moron.

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            Oh yeah, he sounds like an idiot, and piece of shit jerk! Her problem is that she is afraid to be alone, and doesn't seem to want to work on her character defects.

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  • noid
    4 years ago

    Thanks for posting this again. I’m always interested to read it.

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    • Boojum
      4 years ago

      Are you a fan of reality TV shows as well?

      I'm sure a big factor in that genre's popularity is how many people enjoy watching fame-obsessed idiots making fools of themselves because it allows them feel that they aren't that stupid and their lives aren't as fucked up as they could be.

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      • noid
        4 years ago

        I will admit that’s one of the reasons I used to watch the show about hoarding.😃

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  • Ummitsstillme
    4 years ago

    Shouldn't have to pay rent if you dont sleep over more than 50 percent of the time and shouldn't clean messes that you didn't take part in creating. You providing some groceries is plenty fair.

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    Just to be clear..... you KNOW he's a "user, bum, and lazy" ... right?!

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    This sounds like a quality, loving, blossoming relationship.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      ... in Hell.

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  • raisinbran
    4 years ago

    You're living in his place 4 days out of the week. Are you there all day while he's at work? How much time are you spending there alone, and are you cleaning up after yourself? Because that could be seen as you taking advantage of him. He doesn't come to your place because you live with your parents.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      he doesn’t have a job, so he’s not at work. his mom pays for his apartment and of course i clean up. he leaves a mess everywhere. it’s actuslly gross

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        He's trying to take advantage of you for your money, and for free maid service.

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