The fact you don't know what exactly he means by "open relationship" and you aren't sure if you'd also be free to mess around with guys indicates that communication in your relationship is poor. That's never a good sign, and it's particularly bad if other people are getting involved in the mix.
I think the generally accepted definition of an open relationship is that it's one where those involved are free to screw whoever they want. Guys ask for this when they want to have their cake and eat it. If they're hitting on a girl and it doesn't work out, they know they can go home to their backstop piece of ass.
Only you can say how likely it is that he'll get emotionally involved with some girl he fucks and decide dump you. From the little you say, my impression is that he's a user, and you're so besotted with him that you'll go along with whatever he asks. Maybe that will be enough to keep him coming back to you.
And maybe someday you'll see him for what he is and realise you're tired of being used.
Open relationships can work for two people who have agreed on boundaries and who actually communicate with each other. This doesn’t sound like that. If he is “in love” with you, why wouldn’t he want to be exclusive? I’m not gonna speculate too much, as I don’t know you or the situation. But something is already clearly wrong if you’re coming to this site to ask strangers rather than just asking him what ‘open relationship’ means to him. “Going out to dinner” and “hanging out” with other people is not what defines an open relationship.
it was his idea but at this point in his life he wants it to be open for now. and idk when he goes out if he fucks someone it wouldn’t be a big deal and idk i probs won’t cuz idc that much about fuckig other pol
bf wants an open relationship now
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The fact you don't know what exactly he means by "open relationship" and you aren't sure if you'd also be free to mess around with guys indicates that communication in your relationship is poor. That's never a good sign, and it's particularly bad if other people are getting involved in the mix.
I think the generally accepted definition of an open relationship is that it's one where those involved are free to screw whoever they want. Guys ask for this when they want to have their cake and eat it. If they're hitting on a girl and it doesn't work out, they know they can go home to their backstop piece of ass.
Only you can say how likely it is that he'll get emotionally involved with some girl he fucks and decide dump you. From the little you say, my impression is that he's a user, and you're so besotted with him that you'll go along with whatever he asks. Maybe that will be enough to keep him coming back to you.
And maybe someday you'll see him for what he is and realise you're tired of being used.
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in what ways am i being used? he is in love with me but at this point in his life he doesn’t want to have anything exclusive
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Open relationships can work for two people who have agreed on boundaries and who actually communicate with each other. This doesn’t sound like that. If he is “in love” with you, why wouldn’t he want to be exclusive? I’m not gonna speculate too much, as I don’t know you or the situation. But something is already clearly wrong if you’re coming to this site to ask strangers rather than just asking him what ‘open relationship’ means to him. “Going out to dinner” and “hanging out” with other people is not what defines an open relationship.
That sounds like you are making excuses for him. How old are you guys?
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27 & 19
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Um hmm... Just as I suspected.
Whose idea was it to get back together? Are you going to be going out with other guys too, or is it just gonna be him running around?
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it was his idea but at this point in his life he wants it to be open for now. and idk when he goes out if he fucks someone it wouldn’t be a big deal and idk i probs won’t cuz idc that much about fuckig other pol
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Well, that's just what I thought.
So who's idea was it for ya'll to get back together?
You're free to do and participate in whatever you want, but it hurts you and makes you happy don't say that no one ever warned you.