Bf wants an open relationship now

so now he wants an open relationship, and i’m kinda okay with it. but can anyone let me know exactly what i’m getting myself into? like does that mean he can flirt and date people too? not just one night stands ?

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  • Try looking at it as auditions for a new boyfriend.

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  • The fact you don't know what exactly he means by "open relationship" and you aren't sure if you'd also be free to mess around with guys indicates that communication in your relationship is poor. That's never a good sign, and it's particularly bad if other people are getting involved in the mix.

    I think the generally accepted definition of an open relationship is that it's one where those involved are free to screw whoever they want. Guys ask for this when they want to have their cake and eat it. If they're hitting on a girl and it doesn't work out, they know they can go home to their backstop piece of ass.

    Only you can say how likely it is that he'll get emotionally involved with some girl he fucks and decide dump you. From the little you say, my impression is that he's a user, and you're so besotted with him that you'll go along with whatever he asks. Maybe that will be enough to keep him coming back to you.

    And maybe someday you'll see him for what he is and realise you're tired of being used.

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    • in what ways am i being used? he is in love with me but at this point in his life he doesn’t want to have anything exclusive

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      • Open relationships can work for two people who have agreed on boundaries and who actually communicate with each other. This doesn’t sound like that. If he is “in love” with you, why wouldn’t he want to be exclusive? I’m not gonna speculate too much, as I don’t know you or the situation. But something is already clearly wrong if you’re coming to this site to ask strangers rather than just asking him what ‘open relationship’ means to him. “Going out to dinner” and “hanging out” with other people is not what defines an open relationship.

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      • That sounds like you are making excuses for him. How old are you guys?

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        • 27 & 19

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          • Um hmm... Just as I suspected.

            Whose idea was it to get back together? Are you going to be going out with other guys too, or is it just gonna be him running around?

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            • it was his idea but at this point in his life he wants it to be open for now. and idk when he goes out if he fucks someone it wouldn’t be a big deal and idk i probs won’t cuz idc that much about fuckig other pol

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  • He might want to date a 400 pound transsexual named Sheniquah.
    Guys are into that.

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  • This is not okay, and the fact you had to ask us just shows how poor your relationship really is.

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  • don't do it. if he respect you

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  • Ask him what he means, how would we know? Probably that he wants to have sex with whoever he likes as well as with you. Will it be open for you too or just for him?

    I was in an "open marriage" a long long time ago but it was only open for him, including him insisting on telling me exactly what he'd been doing and with whom, contrasting with his jealousy when I had a fling with someone.

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    • yeah. idk he said he would wanna take girls out to dinner and hangout. is that what an open relationship is? i just don’t want him to fall in love with someone else while doing that hahaha

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      • He will probably be wanting to fuck them too of course.

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      • Well there's a very high chance of that happening if he's getting close to other people. That's just the chance you take when you date more than one person at a time.

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  • my bf never said i couldn’t. what makes you think he didn’t. do you think my bf won’t?

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  • Depends on what he means by open relationship. Find that out first. Understand why he wants this. Is this what you want? I would also suggest maybe doing some sort of agreement that these are the dos and don'ts.

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  • show him your dicknity and give him a side-kick in the nuts.

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  • just specify to him what it means to be open to you

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