Bf thinks i’m lying but i’m not

so my bf asked if i deleted a girl off of his snapchat and i didn’t so i said no. (i have a prior history of doing so though) so she must of deleted him. i asked why and he said because she added me back on snapchat and i never deleted her. it totally looks like i did so i later ended up confessing to it just so he would stop accusing me because he was about to text her and ask if she did. i knew she did, but was scared she would say she didn’t anyways. idk it’s a whole mess. and now he’s accusing me of deleting her because she messaged him and that’s what prompted me to deleting her. i said no to that but still stuck with the claim that i deleted. should i of not said i did if i didn’t? i didn’t know how to get him to shut up about it and i was scared she would be like, “what no i didn’t delete you!” even though she obviously did because i didn’t do it. ugh! what do you think about this? i feel bad for lying about doing so but i felt like it would end the discussion about it. they also never talk she’s like married now. i have no idea why she would delete him and add him back

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  • You confessed to something you didn’t do, and that’s where you fucked up. She might have deleted and added him back because of her husband, but if your boyfriend doesnt believe you when you tell him you didn’t do something to his phone, youve got yourself a relationship issue.

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    • so what should i do

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  • Why are you in a relationship where you're scared to tell the truth?

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    • That's exactly what I was thinking.

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      • because i was scared he would text her and ask “did you delete me” and she would say, “no???” even though she clearly did. idk that was my worry so i just admitted to it to end that scenario

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        • It's not a good idea to be with someone you feel like you have a lie to about random stuff.

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        • I'm asking again, why are you in a relationship where you are scared to tell the truth?

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          • i’m not sure. i overthink things

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    • because he wouldn’t believe me

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  • So you falsely confessed to deleting her because you were scared that if she lied to him that you deleted her your boyfriend would believe her over you?

    So you don’t trust him (as you delete girls off his snapchat) and he doesn’t trust you either. You both sound exhausting and shouldn’t be together.

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  • Is this your first boyfriend? Why are you desperate to hang onto him? It sounds like your relationship is more troublesome than it is worth. I would suggest that you break up and find someone who nurtures you and someone who you can be more comfortable with. Things will get much better after you turn 13.

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    • i’m 20 and he’s 28. no he’s not my first boyfriend

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      • Wow. That make you appear even more desperate than I imagined. I'm at a loss for words now. I figured that you were like 12 years old by the scenario that you painted. But to actually be 20 and 28 makes me want to shake my head. I guess you should two hang onto each other because you seem to deserve each other.

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        • what is he doing wrong?

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  • My head hurts. 🙄

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    • Hey this social media crap is very important to the new generation.
      BTW, can you spare a couple of those Tylenol tablets?

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  • Pfff, well that's silly, why did you tell him you did it? You actually lied about not lying.

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    • because i was scared if i told him i didn’t delete her, he would text and ask and she would say she didn’t. idk, confessing to it just seemed like the answer that would end this conflict..

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  • Sounds like this girl is more important to him than you.

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  • fk that sht. Leave him if he acts like that. If you don't have trust, what do you have? You're not the fool, he is. Don't let him control you like this. You deserve more.

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    • why is he the fool and how is he controlling me? you don’t think i did anything wrong?

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  • Like others have already said, you messed up by confessing to something you didn't do, and there's a lack of trust between both of you, which is a pretty big issue in your relationship.

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    • so what should i do? we haven’t texted all day.

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      • You might start by telling him the truth. It might be pretty confusing since you've already confessed to it, but tell him exactly what you're telling us.

        This part is completely up to you, but if I were you I'd rethink this relationship or at least make an attempt to work on the trust issues together.

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