bf says if i clean his apartment he won’t kick me out

Sounds like it's time to get some eggs maybe devil them and hide them about, and then leave his pathetic ass, or just leave, really though you should dump him. Look at it this way do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who kicks you out has anger issues and who is a slob who makes you clean up after him. Just leave him you can do so much better, I understand the appeal of going for an older guy the whole man vs boy argument bit still though sounds like you are dating a boy