bf prefers me to shave and says it's gross

He's a jerk. Totally. My boyfriend never demands shit like that. You shouldn't date someone that can't love and respect your natural body. I get oral sex whenever I want and he never fusses about the hair... and I mean think about it this way, the hair doesn't actually grow on your goods. Your vagina itself, has no hair on it, just the outside and lips. So why should it bother him? Just silly and definitely cultural. I can understand him asking nicely for you to shave if he was respectful and understanding to your body, and didn't throw a fit, but shaming your natural body is selfish and unacceptable and he does not deserve you. And trust me, my boyfriend proof not all men are like this.