Bf never wants to fuck anymore

i always ask him for sex and he always says he isn’t in the mood. we’ve been dating for almost 2 and a half years. is this normal? he’s 28 and i’m 20. he says that sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, and while i agree with that i think it’s important to satisfy your partner sexually. like i’ve become sexually frustrated. we used to fuck many times daily the first like year. iin?

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Comments ( 17 )
  • Bratz

    He's cheating. Throw his ass to the curb.

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  • I would pound you whenever you wanted. I haven't had sex in a few days now. Had to jack off this morning, was so horny :)

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe he's cheating? Maybe he's secretly gay? Maybe it's both?

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    • BoobarellaG

      Yep. He's getting his knob polished on the side. Bank on it.

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      • no he’s not haha

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  • momwatcher69

    I think you should expect him to tell you WHY he's not interested..... Do you have a body odor, does he think you're unattractive, or a less-than-talented sexual partner, or you're not kinky enough, ..... or WHAT?
    FIND OUT !!
    I think he has a 'hidden' reason, personally. Like another viewer suggested.... is he cheating?
    Do you have an otherwise "ok" relationship? I had a g/f years ago, who loved to argue, all the time. I was becoming less and less desirous, of her, because of her personality.

    I'm NOT implying ANY of this, applies to you.....

    He OWE'S YOU A (truthful) ANSWER !! .... and make SURE he LOOKS you in the eye, when he "explains" his answer.

    You said you used to fuck daily.... Something has changed, and you deserve to know WHAT is is !!

    If his answer is "he's not in the mood" BULLSHIT. He's 28.

    However, you also claim he's depressed, and withdrawing from drugs.
    How does THAT give him the right to make YOU miserable, too ?!

    Tell him to pull his head out of his ass, or you will pull out, of his life.

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  • sibyl

    he was way too old for you when you started dating, huge red flag. you're legal and hes no longer interest. hope he commits suicide, find someone better :)

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    • why would you want him to commit suicide

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  • Normal12343

    As someone who struggled with a long bout of depression i would ask how well you know him and how his health is mentally personally when i was at my bottom intamacy with my wife was nil to the point even i worried about us i got help and got my life back in order but women you need to not make this about you maybe its actually not you and his head is just somewhere else right now just because someone doesnt want to fuck doesnt mean youre ugly or theyre cheating make sure hes actually not into you before you turn your back or you could make things alot worse

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    • he has depression and he’s withdrawling from drugs.. maybe that’s why?

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  • randypete

    If you want your clit liked just ask

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  • lordofopinions

    Something is wrong here. Maybe he is tired of you. Maybe he has a side chick. Who knows. But if you are not happy and you have talked to him it's probably time to bail.

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    • i asked if he was cheating and he got mad at me. he said he obvi isn’t it’s just if ur in a relationship for 2 years you don’t have sex as often

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  • Jamforlife2010

    Maybe he just is stressed. I used to have sex allot in the beginning if my relationship. See woman always believe sex is always on are mind. It can be farther then the true.

    My woman complains all the time too. Yet I still have allot of resentment from things that have happened over the past years with her and her kids.

    If there is any resentment towards you it will turn him off like a light switch. Ask him is there anything you can do to make him more interested in sex.

    Also go get the book the five love launguages by Gary Chapman and do the test both of you and begin to love each other the right way.

    For example my love tank is full when I have physical touch and words of affirmation.

    My bubbles love language is physical touch and quality time.

    See quality time is my last live launguage so order to make her feel loved I have to actually put effort into it.

    So the bottom line. Sex life does go down overtime in most relationships, because when your a new couple you have high levels of endorphins released in the brain. As time goes by those endorphins do not pack as much of a punch.

    That is why when people cheat. At the time it may feel really good. Then after the person is usually in shock and can’t believe that made the mistake.

    If you have any more questions just comment

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    • what do you mean any resentment towards me?

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      • Jamforlife2010

        It can be anything. I could be a little thing to you, but a big thing to him. So like for instance: my step children destroyed my house and she let them. I resented her and her kids for the longest time. Now threw third eye opening I was able to let go of allot of stufff. Example: let’s say he tells you money is tight. So then you may go buy stuff that is not needed. That might cause a big problem from his point of view.

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  • MasterOfNone

    Although sex is a crucial element in a relationship, having to do it might become more of chore then pleasure. And of course this entirely depends on how you have sex. Do like to do things he doesn't? Or do a same routine such as, just missionary only? Limiting his sexual exploration? Or perhaps is he losing his attractiveness towards you.

    Many things can be the reason however, when someone cheats, they will slip up/make a mistake on their own, regardless of how secretive they can be. Trust me on this.

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