Bf left his phone at his house to cheat

so i have friend friends with my boyfriend, so we can see each other’s location. for the past several months of our relationship he’s been cheating and it’s been a pattern of me always forgiving and taking him back. i had a feeling when he was saying he was going to be going to bed at 11:40 it was a lie because he never goes to sleep before like 4am. so i drove to his house, and sure enough his car was gone. i waited for 2 hours. he came back and said he was on a “run” and had this whole excuse that was going to go on a drive and then parked his car around the corner etc etc. i don’t know what to do, i set up a therapy appointment and he’s begging me not to leave him because i said i need to think about what i’m going to do. he says he will kill himself. if anyone has any advice on what you think i should do i would appreciate it

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  • Somenormie

    The normal part is that you're exposing him, the not so normal part is that you're going on his phone and stalking him.

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    • he has my location too, it was mutual agreement from the beginning. he’s been cheating for months and i had a feeling he wasn’t home.

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      • Somenormie

        then did you break up in that case?

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  • Tommythecaty

    He’s a cheater.

    You’re an insane stalker.

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    • Boojum

      A bit harsh, dude.

      Drop the "insane", and I'd agree that this is a concise summation of what's going on.

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      • Tommythecaty

        Maybe not insane, but still.

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    • 1WeirdGuy

      Left her house at midnight to drive and check if her boyfriend is home even though the damn tracker she has on his phone shows hes at home. Yes that is insane stalker level creepiness. Probably a normal thing for her to drive there and spy on him. I doubt it just so happens the first time she does it she catches him and thats the only time. Creeeepy

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      • Tommythecaty

        Exactly.

        I mean she was right, but still.

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      • he has my location on his phone too.

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    • he has my location on his phone too.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Okay, honey, here's what you need to do! Dump that lying sack of shit, and when he threatens to kill himself you can call 911 on him.

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    You just need to dump him, he's a waste of your time.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    The fact that you have a tracker on his phone tells me a little bit that you are over bearing. It probably wont work unless yall do an open relationship.

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    • olderdude-xx

      There are apps that let you track someone else's phone location.

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    • he has my location too

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  • olderdude-xx

    I agree with RoseIsabella that its time to move on if there is a pattern here.

    Chalk it up to a lesson learned, and think about how to do better in the future.

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  • SwickDinging

    Break up with him and then block him on all social media.

    Don't degrade yourself by wasting your time with someone who keeps cheating on you. It's terrible for your self-esteem and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You let people treat you badly, you start to believe that's all you deserve and the best you can do, then others take their cues from you and decide to treat you badly. Don't go down this road.

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  • bigbudchonger

    Ngl, this sounds very stalkerish. I know he has you on his phone too, but clearly you're the one who's very much into tracking him on his phone.

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  • Curiouskitten444

    Good call on making a therapy appointment. You may be glorifying his existence in your life and feel like hes perfect if only he didnt cheat. Might help to make a list of things you dont like about him to take him down from god tier to flawed human. Youll find someone else that is amazing and wouldnt dream of cheating on you ❤️ And agreed on calling 911 and putting that location thing to use if he threatens to kill himself. Its happened to me and it helped me take accountability for my actions.
    Good luck ❤️

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