Bf got mad at me for this

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i saw on his fb while he was on it, i was on his bed and he was on the other side on his desktop.. that a girl from his past “waved” at him on fb. and i asked about it and he flipped out. accused me of going on his other computer and looking through his messages, called me a dumb bitch, loser and hit me with a pillow bc i wouldn’t leave after he asked me to. i ended up leaving and i got a text saying “i hope you got all your stuff bc you’re never coming to my apartment ever again. i’m completely done this time” ( i didn’t respond) now i cannot sleep. i don’t know what to think of his behavior. i didn’t ask about the message in a bratty way, i just asked like any other 20 yr old gf would? i don’t know what to do. if he calls me what should i say? and what do you think of his behavior

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  • Strj
    5 years ago

    You did absolutely nothing wrong, he flipped like autistic idiot. Don't ever blame yourself for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Move on. Find a new boyfriend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      is he in the wrong or am i?

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        He's wrong.

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  • einexile
    5 years ago

    It doesn't matter if he is cheating, it doesn't matter if you were snooping or if it was justified. All that matters is that when confronted with either wrongdoing or an embarrassing situation, this guy loses his shit. He is a pussy.

    Certainly there's more to him than that, he's a human being and like anyone he has faults and he deserves love, but none of that matters to you - because you, who faced possibly betrayal and humiliation with good humor and a willingness to listen, are too good to date someone whose balls crawl back up inside him when he gets scared.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      Um hmm, the guy is a piece of shit, but for some reason OP refuses to accept it.

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    He sounds guilty as hell. Hard to know without being there though- if you already have issues then it could just look like you were going through his stuff. I once dumped someone because they were reading my texts. Deal breaker for me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      yeah i used to snoop and he knows that. plus he was tired

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        It's not good that you used to snoop, but it's good if you don't snoop anymore. However, if a person is giving his, or her partner reason to be jealous then...

        I do rather think that you are making excuses for him, why do you suppose you do that?

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  • NopeEngie
    5 years ago

    As a bf, it can be annoying when your gf can doubt you on everything, but if your bf reacted like this, either he has mental issues, or there is something going on with that girl. Why would one get mad at their gf just mentionning a random woman. Idk girl, it's weird, you should definitely investigate, and if he's not ready to give answers or hides everything from you just saying "Just trust me", that is a huge red flag, and you should probably consider leaving him. In the end you're the one tha knows the most about your relationship, so i'm not one to make a choice for a you. Hope you take the right decision, and hope life goes well after.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      well the thing about that girl is that he only hung with her for 2 weeks while she was visiting california. she lives in texas and is engaged. they don’t even have each other on snapchat. they never talk. she she just randomly messaged him with a “wave” emoji. and he didn’t respond. he always gets mad when i question things....

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      • NopeEngie
        5 years ago

        Well, if she's engaged and your bf barely hung out with her, it's probably nothing. But i still get weird feelings from the fact he gets angry whenever you question things. It's normal for someone in a relationship to worry a little bit, and ask questions. His reactions seem extremely disproportionate, i think it may hide either unfaithfulness, mental issues, or another underlying problem in your relationship (i.e. He's mad at you for something else entirely). Again, you're the one with the most info about your relationship, only hypothesising on what i know.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          he’s a ex drug addict. so maybe that’s why.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Is he in a twelve step program?

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    Its really annoying when girls go snooping through your stuff.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      i didn’t go snooping. i saw him open the message when he was on fb

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        5 years ago

        I wasnt there but I had a girlfriend once who was really nosey and always wanted to know what I was doing. She found a collection of naked pictures from all my old girlfriends and she deleted them. Honestly I would of chose to dump her over those pictures getting deleted. She wasnt worth the headache. It was such a turn off and it pissed me off. It made me think I'd be happier without some chic questioning everything. She made me quit hanging out or talking to any girls that I really was friends with. She snapped on one girl for wanting to see my new house she really was just a friend in a message. I was wondering how the hell she even knew she said that because the whole conversation was innocent

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        • IrishPotato
          5 years ago

          Whatever they deleted can be retrieved.

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        • RoseIsabella
          5 years ago

          I'm not a fan of having lots of collections of naked people, but if anyone ever deleted any of my stuff from my computer it would be an absolute deal breaker! I don't want anyone fucking with my shit on my computer, opening my mail, listening to my phone conversations, or any of that stuff my mother would have done to me in my teens, or early adulthood. I don't mind a person casually asking questions about stuff, but I can't tolerate people messing with my personal effects.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            Pretty random, but this reminds me of Isobe and Sato from A Girl on the Shore. They had a bang-buddy relationship, but Sato deleted pics of some model the boy had on his computer.

            A few days later, after she confronts him for ignoring her, he grabs her by the face and says, "...I hate it when people mess with my stuff like that. If you ever touch my computer again, I swear I'll fucking kill you."

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            • RoseIsabella
              5 years ago

              What did she say to that? I can't stand people messing with my stuff! Like I said earlier, it's a deal breaker for me.

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          • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
            5 years ago

            Yeah it pissed me off. I understand why she wanted them gone but it pissed me off that she did it. I cant get those back. I ended up dumping her later anyway so she deleted them for nothing.

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            • RoseIsabella
              5 years ago

              I think destroying, or disposing of another person's personal property is a great way to destroy a relationship, and guarantee the dissolution of that relationship.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          i doubt she was trying to make you not see your friends. my bf accuses me of that and it’s simply not true. she probably just didn’t like them, and didn’t like who you were when u were around them.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            To tell you the truth neither you, nor I, or anyone on this site except for Weirdguy knows the truth of this situation. Do you realize that you are making up excuses, and kinda trying to mind read this chick from the past that only Weirdguy knows? Why do you suppose you are making excuses for a woman you don't even know? Why is it so important to you for this woman who is a stranger to the all of the people of Is It Normal except Weirdguy to be right?

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Yeah, but it's completely not her place to delete the pictures, because the pictures don't belong to her.

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          • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
            5 years ago

            And btw its not her job to "not like them". Her not liking them doesnt mean I have to not.

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          • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
            5 years ago

            She was making me stop talking to them completely. She was paranoid and was convinced they liked me like that when they didnt. I had probably 10 girls that were friends since highschool that she screwed up our friendships. I actually never talked to any of them again. It still pisses me off to this day.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              how do you know she made you disconnect from your gal friends from high school? my bf also, accuses me of this. he says i’ve pushes away every girl friend he had. which isn’t true. because when you get into a relationship, you stop talking to girls? haha at least for the most part. besides, these were girls he hooked up with and/or wanted to.. sooo

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      • Nikclaire
        5 years ago

        Bs you're a snoop

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    • Nikclaire
      5 years ago

      Right I hate snoops

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  • SKDM007
    5 years ago

    29 votes all not normal, nice

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Real men hit with fists.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      they shouldn’t hit at all (-:

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  • notsaying4life
    5 years ago

    Im not gonna lie I know how it feels when your s.o wants to check on every little thing you do but for him to act and say all that is a little bit too much especially for someone who claims to love you but then again ive seen couples go through worser scenarios than this and are still together so it all depends on what you want,if you think you can handle stuff like this then you should thread with caution but if not then you should quit

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    If thing went exactly as you said then it's probably best you move on, he is not worth it and it would be a terrible idea to try with such a guy.

    However, if there's crucial details your leaving out then all advice you're being given on this post may be the opposite of what you should.

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    It sounds like he doesn't like you.

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  • Nikclaire
    5 years ago

    Respect people's privacy. Ffs

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  • Nikclaire
    5 years ago

    Snooping badgers again?? Change your schitck

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  • brutus
    5 years ago

    Sounds mean.

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