Have you really talked about what happened? Got into it? Because it will be impossible for either of you to move on until you do. It'll be messy but you'll know for sure if you want to remain together or move on at that point.
Tell him you want to have a serious conversation without emotional outbursts. If he agrees to it, prepare yourself to uphold your side of the deal. This doesn't mean you can't feel emotions or express them, but simply that you agree not to scream, blame, or cry (in a pointed fashion... tearing up is of course, okay).
Now it is time to ask your real questions. You surely wonder about what he did. Are there details you are curious about but have been afraid to ask? Maybe you want to know what they did together? Maybe there is something he has been ashamed to ask you for that he feels he needs. If he can't have this conversation with you (and you can't have it with him)? You'll both be stuck in a past moment and won't be able to exist in present ones.
bf gets mad at me when i bring up him cheating
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Have you really talked about what happened? Got into it? Because it will be impossible for either of you to move on until you do. It'll be messy but you'll know for sure if you want to remain together or move on at that point.
Tell him you want to have a serious conversation without emotional outbursts. If he agrees to it, prepare yourself to uphold your side of the deal. This doesn't mean you can't feel emotions or express them, but simply that you agree not to scream, blame, or cry (in a pointed fashion... tearing up is of course, okay).
Now it is time to ask your real questions. You surely wonder about what he did. Are there details you are curious about but have been afraid to ask? Maybe you want to know what they did together? Maybe there is something he has been ashamed to ask you for that he feels he needs. If he can't have this conversation with you (and you can't have it with him)? You'll both be stuck in a past moment and won't be able to exist in present ones.