Bf doesn’t like to talk about our relationship problems
My bf and I have been together for about a year now but lately things have been different. We’ve been fighting about the stupidest shit at least twice a week for a few months now. I know these little insignificant arguments are probably related to a bigger picture, but everytime I try to get down to the bottom of it, he never wants to talk about or give any type of insight about how he feels about it. It’s really fucking annoying.
I know most of our relationship problems are mainly caused by a lack of communication but somehow I can’t convince him that it is indeed the case. He’s really fucking stubborn when it comes to the simplest shit. When I ask him to tell me all the things that he has a problem with, his response is usually “I’m not gonna tell you, you should be able to figure it out”… like wtf
Couples therapy literally exists because of shit like that IMO, why is it so impossible for him to tell me? The more I push him, the more upset he’ll get. He feels that him telling me is a ‘cheat sheet’. That I should try to be more understanding, but how the fuck am I supposed to understand if he never explains. He can never be direct with me.
I know we’re both somewhat unhappy in this relationship now, but we used to be great and I’m sure we can get back to that. When it’s good, it’s really good, but that good never lasts that long.
I’m just really trying to save this relationship before I completely give up on it, any advice would be appreciated.