You may never understand, and I'm not sure either (different men have different reasons)
I do know that there can be a lot of "ego" satisfaction to being a SD... not to mention a wide variety of nice looking and very willing sex partners (which adds to the ego satisfaction of how good a "man" they are).
I could easily have had 3 different ladies a week from any of the sites I was on without even trying (or doing more than buying a cup of coffee, etc.), if that was what I wanted. But, I'm extremely selective and how they think and act is far more important to me than their bodies; and I've always looked for demonstrated long term friends first for any intimate partner (I don't do hook-ups or flings).
Again, I suggest that you move on. He might grow up some day, and he might not. Some habits are hard to break; and getting used to multiple readily available intimate partners can be a difficult one for most men to give up on.
If you want a man who is poly or involved in multiple partners - you should have a say up front in that (and be able to set rules and expectations: Any decent man owes you that, and you owe a man the same if you desire others as well). Permission up front with rules does wonders and prevents all kinds of issues.
bf cheated and i feel dumb for staying with him
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You may never understand, and I'm not sure either (different men have different reasons)
I do know that there can be a lot of "ego" satisfaction to being a SD... not to mention a wide variety of nice looking and very willing sex partners (which adds to the ego satisfaction of how good a "man" they are).
I could easily have had 3 different ladies a week from any of the sites I was on without even trying (or doing more than buying a cup of coffee, etc.), if that was what I wanted. But, I'm extremely selective and how they think and act is far more important to me than their bodies; and I've always looked for demonstrated long term friends first for any intimate partner (I don't do hook-ups or flings).
Again, I suggest that you move on. He might grow up some day, and he might not. Some habits are hard to break; and getting used to multiple readily available intimate partners can be a difficult one for most men to give up on.
If you want a man who is poly or involved in multiple partners - you should have a say up front in that (and be able to set rules and expectations: Any decent man owes you that, and you owe a man the same if you desire others as well). Permission up front with rules does wonders and prevents all kinds of issues.
Again, I wish you the best...