The flag for me is that he want's to be a Sugar Daddy with sexual interest in the ladies; and without your up front approval of that concept (and all that goes into it).
That speaks of a mindset that is not supportive of a solid long term relationship.
I know a lot about what goes on with these sites. I have been a real oddball on those because I was there (still am on 1 site) only to mentor Ladies who are looking for how to get ahead, without any expectation of sexual interest or contact (and I've had to say no many many times). I also get messages telling me that I'm on the wrong site. Key is my wife knows I'm there (and approved of my going back on those sites after I was married for what I do), knows of the good I have done, has met a number of the Ladies I have assisted to get ahead, etc. She even picked the pictures that I have used over the years.
Anyway; I've heard from several thousand ladies over many years on what the normal range of SD-SB relationships are.
My advice... Leave, and never look back. He has a lot of growing up to do to raise to your standards... and it's not likely to occur soon.
i’m just not sure why he wants to do this SD thing. he’s not even that rich. he’s 24. he owns a mediocre skateboard company but it isn’t huge. he still lives with his parents. just don’t get it
You may never understand, and I'm not sure either (different men have different reasons)
I do know that there can be a lot of "ego" satisfaction to being a SD... not to mention a wide variety of nice looking and very willing sex partners (which adds to the ego satisfaction of how good a "man" they are).
I could easily have had 3 different ladies a week from any of the sites I was on without even trying (or doing more than buying a cup of coffee, etc.), if that was what I wanted. But, I'm extremely selective and how they think and act is far more important to me than their bodies; and I've always looked for demonstrated long term friends first for any intimate partner (I don't do hook-ups or flings).
Again, I suggest that you move on. He might grow up some day, and he might not. Some habits are hard to break; and getting used to multiple readily available intimate partners can be a difficult one for most men to give up on.
If you want a man who is poly or involved in multiple partners - you should have a say up front in that (and be able to set rules and expectations: Any decent man owes you that, and you owe a man the same if you desire others as well). Permission up front with rules does wonders and prevents all kinds of issues.
bf cheated and i feel dumb for staying with him
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The flag for me is that he want's to be a Sugar Daddy with sexual interest in the ladies; and without your up front approval of that concept (and all that goes into it).
That speaks of a mindset that is not supportive of a solid long term relationship.
I know a lot about what goes on with these sites. I have been a real oddball on those because I was there (still am on 1 site) only to mentor Ladies who are looking for how to get ahead, without any expectation of sexual interest or contact (and I've had to say no many many times). I also get messages telling me that I'm on the wrong site. Key is my wife knows I'm there (and approved of my going back on those sites after I was married for what I do), knows of the good I have done, has met a number of the Ladies I have assisted to get ahead, etc. She even picked the pictures that I have used over the years.
Anyway; I've heard from several thousand ladies over many years on what the normal range of SD-SB relationships are.
My advice... Leave, and never look back. He has a lot of growing up to do to raise to your standards... and it's not likely to occur soon.
I wish you the best with this,
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i’m just not sure why he wants to do this SD thing. he’s not even that rich. he’s 24. he owns a mediocre skateboard company but it isn’t huge. he still lives with his parents. just don’t get it
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You may never understand, and I'm not sure either (different men have different reasons)
I do know that there can be a lot of "ego" satisfaction to being a SD... not to mention a wide variety of nice looking and very willing sex partners (which adds to the ego satisfaction of how good a "man" they are).
I could easily have had 3 different ladies a week from any of the sites I was on without even trying (or doing more than buying a cup of coffee, etc.), if that was what I wanted. But, I'm extremely selective and how they think and act is far more important to me than their bodies; and I've always looked for demonstrated long term friends first for any intimate partner (I don't do hook-ups or flings).
Again, I suggest that you move on. He might grow up some day, and he might not. Some habits are hard to break; and getting used to multiple readily available intimate partners can be a difficult one for most men to give up on.
If you want a man who is poly or involved in multiple partners - you should have a say up front in that (and be able to set rules and expectations: Any decent man owes you that, and you owe a man the same if you desire others as well). Permission up front with rules does wonders and prevents all kinds of issues.
Again, I wish you the best...