Betrayed by mum

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I have always believed my parents had a strong loving marriage and relationship.i came home from college unexpected earlier because of a cancelled class.when I got home the house was cleaned tidy but mum was no where downstairs so thinking she might have gone upstairs to have a nap.as I got to top of stairs I could hear voices.hearing a strange male voice I walked in.i was not expecting to see what was in front of me mum um bed with another man not my dad her husband.when she realised I was there she pulled the quilt over the pair of them I run Down the stairs.mum appeared at top of stairs.saying I can explain.i didn't want to know.i felt betrayed by her actions.i left the house and went to a friends house mum sent me numerous text messages I didn't reply to any of them.my first thought was to text day and tell him.I didn't though I fell stuck in a awkward position what should I do

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  • Rilley
    6 years ago | pl

    i think you should tell your dad, because your mum has done a terrible thing to him. if someone cheated on me i would definitely want to know, because what's stopping your mum from doing it again? sure there's a chance they'll divorce, but if your mum has decided to sleep with another man despite being in marriage, it already wasn't a very healthy relationship to begin with; and they would be better off without each other.

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  • reclessteen
    6 years ago

    Update to my situation.i have gone back home.mum and dad are talking.dad seems to be ok with it me and dad have spoken her knows about mums actions.i was a little disturbed.by what he told me they have an open relationship.i suddenly realised I don't know my parents what is an open relationship.are they married am I born out of marriage.is my dad my dad.or someone else.my mind is running overtime.so many questions and no answers

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    • Jimbo24
      6 years ago

      That settles it then.

      Are you really this naive that you don't know what an open relationship is? How old are you? Anyway, don't take the condescending tone bad because you sound really clueless about the world so I'll explain to you an open relation like I would to a kid.

      An open relationship is when mommy and daddy decide they will have physical relations with other people as well as with each other. And what this means is that daddy will occasionally grab other women (than your mom) by the hair while pounding them with his penis, and that mommy will get smashed by foreign men while grabbed by the hair too. This doesn't mean they aren't married nor that your dad isn't your dad. It just means that your parents do the nasty with other people in addition to each other.

      In short, you have nothing to worry about, just go back to your activities and let the adults do their thing.

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      • reclessteen
        6 years ago

        I'm old enough to understand what you have explained its sound perverted if you love someone and get married why would you want to do things like that.if your single I can relate to no commitment.but marriage you take vows its just wrong

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        • Jimbo24
          6 years ago

          And that's the reason you shouldn't think about your parents' sex lives any longer, so long as it's consensual. Whatever gets them off is bound to make you cringe. They do "things like that" because they find it sexy, because it spices their sex life, because they want variety, or whatever. I suggest you forget about it just like you forgot they had a sex life to begin with, and move on. Good luck.

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  • Jimbo24
    6 years ago

    Agree with two of the above comments. Either tell your dad, or blackmail your mom. She must pay for her deeds somehow, and in both instances she'll be paying, and will thus be partly relieved of the guilt, and some justice will be served.

    What you witnessed gave you something most people hate: responsibility. But it also gave you something a lot of men thirst after: power (in this case over your mother). So make sure you use this power wisely and that the punishment --be it in the form extortion of money/services from mom, or spilling the beans to dad-- remains proportional to the crime.

    All the best.

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    • SmokeEverything
      6 years ago

      She should take her mom for everything she can get and then tell dad everything.

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  • Jsmoove0101
    6 years ago

    Now this is a very difficult situation you find yourself in, but also the perfect time to be an opportunist. What you should probably do is extort your mom she fucked up now make her pay for it. Nothing to extreme buy maybe a new wardrobe a new cell phone ...etc

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  • Beecherbabyok
    6 years ago

    Try to replay what you saw in your mind over and over. What exactly was the strange man doing to your mum? Was his penis out? Was her whisker biscuit out? Were they touching? Drill down to what really happened. Then you'll know what to do.

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  • Tupelahoney
    6 years ago

    Be honest and make your mom be honest. Tell your dad. Have it out with her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Your mum should be the one to tell your father about her cheating on him. Let them sort things out by themselves. Try to talk to your mum and understand what is going on.

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago

    Running or ignoring her won't change a thing. Communicate with her and figure out what the hell she was doing and WHY

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    • Ellenna
      6 years ago

      It doesn't take much figuring out! She was fucking because she wanted to do it

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  • MR.mr
    6 years ago

    I'm sorry that's so fucked up I sincerely wish i could give you advice but idk.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    That sounds like a nightmare!

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    • MR.mr
      6 years ago

      Rose you usually have good advice, what do you think? I feel bad for him but I have no idea what the proper response to a situation this fucked up is.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        I don't know either. I'm just glad I have never had that experience. I would probably hate my mom for life for that shit.

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