As a couple of people have said, ask him, it's the easiest way to find out.
A couple of observations:
>Please keep it realistic so no threesomes, crazy bondage,
>or really weird kinky stuff. Okay thanks.
OK boom, if you were talking about me, you've just ruled yourself out of the race. This is basically the divide that most girls won't cross: most women that I've met are willing to play, have a bit of exploration, do things that are a little bit adventurous, but ultimately they stay broadly vanilla. Erotic lingerie as opposed to pornstar/hooker clothes.
I mean you should never do anything you don't want to; if you're finding yourself edging towards doing things you don't want to because you want to impress a guy, I'd suggest you might be trying to prove yourself in a way that isn't necessarily healthy. BUT, for me at least, timidity is a massive turn-off, and conventionality, and needing to stay within the bounds of what's "normal". The sexiest thing for me is women who are not afraid of their sexuality, women who, if they're turned on by a fantasy will try it. And I do think that there are a lot of people who back away from doing things they want to do.
The things you remember are the things you haven't done before or you don't do every day. And basically lots of women like a bit of mild naughtiness but it gets boring and kind of disappointing after a while, "Oh, you think that's adventurous, do you?" To really be memorable you need to break new ground. And often, the areas of extra people, tying up, fantasies and kinks are the areas other ladies have left unexplored.
And contributing your own ideas, fantasies, roleplays, costumes, experiments, adventures is massively sexy too :-)
>Happy to say I've already mastered blowjobs...
You have NEVER mastered blowjobs. There are so many different techniques. It's like saying you've mastered the violin. You haven't, not until you've played a LOT of violin and had some amazing teaching. I have had good blowjobs, and then I've had blowjobs so good I got headrushes off them. If you think you've mastered blowjobs, learn deepthroat. If you think you've mastered deepthroat, learn to do it as smoothly as Annette Schwarz - that woman is either an artist or an elite athlete or both. It's a matter of technique, it's something you can learn, I've an ex-girlfriend who trained herself with carrots over the course of a couple of months, and I've always remembered her. Whole thing. Right down, no choking or gagging, licking my balls at the same time. When you can do that you can say you've mastered blowjobs... the point being, if you really want to be the best he'll ever have, then you have to be the best you can possibly be, which means there's no finish line. You have to constantly be looking for ways to enhance your skills or freshen up the theatre of it or build the intensity or add variety. Expand your boundaries.
Sounds like a mission really. You could just focus on having sex that both of you enjoy; sounds like you're there already, that's great. Good luck.
Thanks you so much for your advice. You're definitely right about the blowjob comment. I cannot say I've mastered it when I can always improve. So thanks. :)
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As a couple of people have said, ask him, it's the easiest way to find out.
A couple of observations:
>Please keep it realistic so no threesomes, crazy bondage,
>or really weird kinky stuff. Okay thanks.
OK boom, if you were talking about me, you've just ruled yourself out of the race. This is basically the divide that most girls won't cross: most women that I've met are willing to play, have a bit of exploration, do things that are a little bit adventurous, but ultimately they stay broadly vanilla. Erotic lingerie as opposed to pornstar/hooker clothes.
I mean you should never do anything you don't want to; if you're finding yourself edging towards doing things you don't want to because you want to impress a guy, I'd suggest you might be trying to prove yourself in a way that isn't necessarily healthy. BUT, for me at least, timidity is a massive turn-off, and conventionality, and needing to stay within the bounds of what's "normal". The sexiest thing for me is women who are not afraid of their sexuality, women who, if they're turned on by a fantasy will try it. And I do think that there are a lot of people who back away from doing things they want to do.
The things you remember are the things you haven't done before or you don't do every day. And basically lots of women like a bit of mild naughtiness but it gets boring and kind of disappointing after a while, "Oh, you think that's adventurous, do you?" To really be memorable you need to break new ground. And often, the areas of extra people, tying up, fantasies and kinks are the areas other ladies have left unexplored.
And contributing your own ideas, fantasies, roleplays, costumes, experiments, adventures is massively sexy too :-)
>Happy to say I've already mastered blowjobs...
You have NEVER mastered blowjobs. There are so many different techniques. It's like saying you've mastered the violin. You haven't, not until you've played a LOT of violin and had some amazing teaching. I have had good blowjobs, and then I've had blowjobs so good I got headrushes off them. If you think you've mastered blowjobs, learn deepthroat. If you think you've mastered deepthroat, learn to do it as smoothly as Annette Schwarz - that woman is either an artist or an elite athlete or both. It's a matter of technique, it's something you can learn, I've an ex-girlfriend who trained herself with carrots over the course of a couple of months, and I've always remembered her. Whole thing. Right down, no choking or gagging, licking my balls at the same time. When you can do that you can say you've mastered blowjobs... the point being, if you really want to be the best he'll ever have, then you have to be the best you can possibly be, which means there's no finish line. You have to constantly be looking for ways to enhance your skills or freshen up the theatre of it or build the intensity or add variety. Expand your boundaries.
Sounds like a mission really. You could just focus on having sex that both of you enjoy; sounds like you're there already, that's great. Good luck.
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Thanks you so much for your advice. You're definitely right about the blowjob comment. I cannot say I've mastered it when I can always improve. So thanks. :)