Best friend/roommate confessed she loves my ex

So to get to the point, March of 2020 I (23F) ended my 5 year relationship with my high school boyfriend (21M). Summer 2020 my friend (21F) breaks up with her boyfriend (23M) whom she has a kid with. (we’re all friends)

September 2020 me and my friend move in together and got back to being really close like how we were in high school.

In high school she slept with my ex and then weeks later he told me he liked me and I asked her if it bothered her if we started dating and she told me no. So we date for 5 years. Side note: new year’s day 2020 i found them cuddling on the couch when i woke up and she apologized and said she didn’t know why she did that and that she would tell her boyfriend at the time, i don’t think she ever did.

The other night i made a comment to my roommate saying do you ever wonder what life be like had you ended up with my ex and i ended up with yours? She didn’t say much but was like yeah i’ve actually thought about that before.

Last night were both very intoxicated, just me and her and she goes “i have to tell you something”. Now keep in mind before i started dating my ex i asked her if it was okay and before moving in together i asked her if she would ever get with him again. Both of her replies were no.

She proceeds to tell me that she’s always really liked/loved him and that they have been talking the whole time we have been living together. I’m upset because i thought i could trust this person and tried my best to always communicate my feelings to her.

I don’t have feeling for my ex and if they feel like they want to pursue each other i honestly don’t see why not. I just don’t understand why she would move in with me, get close to me, listen to me talk about our relationship problems just to go behind my back like that.

I have no trust for her now and don’t see how we can go back to being how we were as i feel like i can’t tell her anything now. We also moved from our first place after four months so we’ve barley been signed on our new lease for a month. She could’ve told me this before we signed that second lease but now i have to live there for a year with her.

Should i chose to forgive her and be okay with the situation or should i live with her but remove her from my life? I just don’t know what to do.

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  • GeekyGold

    Hell no, people like that are the worst. Just from this post i can tell she only thinks about herself and doesn’t care if she burns any bridges. You’re better off keeping your distance until you can leave because that type of person is no friend or someone you can trust at all.

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  • Imafriendyrock

    She was probably hooking up with him while yall were together, although she will deny it either way. So you'll never know. I would still be her friend, you dont have a choice now really. But I wouldnt ever trust her with your boyfriends.

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