Being forced to retell your friends rape to a stranger?

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So, last night I was at my "best friend"'s house and I f***ing hated it. She's really clingy because I'm the only person who puts up with her, but I'm about sick of dealing with her weird ass bullshit. She's constantly attached to her phone, and constantly whoring herself out by sending pictures and texts to strangers she met over the internet. Personally, I just don't act like that on principle. I have a lot more respect for myself and it pisses me off to be a part of the messed up things she does with boys. But last night it finally went too far for me. Usually, she'll just practically have phone sex with guys while I sit there and twiddle my thumbs, but last night she decided that she wanted this total stranger to hear the story of her rape that she wrote. It's about 10 chapters long and really graphic, and as much as I hate her habits, I hate thinking about what happened to her because it makes me so upset. I've told her straight up a lot of times I'm havnig nothing to do with her guys that she talks to on the phone and I'm not saying a word to them, but she made me read that entire story of her rape to a total stranger last night over the phone. She wouldn't do it herself after she got started and really put me in a position where I couldn't refuse to read it for her. So there I was for a good 30 minutes having read aloud about how my friends vagina was torn up when she was 13. She is my friend, but I just think it's really messed up. Is this a normal thing for people to make their friends do? Because I'm really pretty pissed about it and I want to know if you guys would be mad if you were in my situation.

tl;dr My friend made me read a detailed story of her rape to some random guy of the internet over the phone. Would you be pissed?

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  • TheBlueMonster
    12 years ago

    You should really encourage your friend to get help. If her story is true, then it's highly probable that she is suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD for short. It's a fairly common disorder that originates from a highly traumatic situation, and has a wide variety of potential causes, with rape being one of the most common. Your friend appears to be involving herself in such rash, unusual behavior as an attempt to put the trauma behind her. In essence, it's a cry for help. The best thing you can really do is to make it clear to her that you can see that she's suffering on some level and that you want to help. Tell her that you won't force her into seeking help, but you want her to feel better about herself. Be supportive, as hard as it may seem- she really needs a friend right now. You might want to do some research into her condition as well, as a sense of understanding will do you both a lot of good in this situation. I should also note that it is typically not a good idea to force her to seek help unless you truly feel that she is putting herself and/or others in immediate and serious danger, as this has the potential to cause very serious emotional damage and severely worsen her condition.

    I wish you luck and a better relationship with your friend, and I wish healing for her. PTSD is a very difficult condition to live with.

    By the way, I should mention that I'm just someone who knows a bit about psychiatry, but I'm not a doctor, so don't take my word as medical advice. I actually do have PTSD for reasons I won't get into, so I can speak from a patient's perspective, and hopefully help guide you towards a solution, but I'm not a licensed professional. Regardless, I hope I helped.

    Thanks for reading and have a nice day.

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  • Michael137
    13 years ago

    Thus doesn't seen at all normal, I think she needs some help and that this has affected her majorly.

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  • kittycatrelle
    8 years ago

    It is her cry for help. Talk her into getting serious help. She can only heal.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    No, just no. I think your friend would benefit from therapy.

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  • DoReMiRocker
    12 years ago

    That girl is messed up ._.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Post the story then we'll comment

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  • DemonnPrincess
    12 years ago

    I was raped too, and I feel for your friend deeply, so forgive me because I will be blunt:

    I feel so bad for your friend. The last thing she needs is her friend giving up on her(not implying that I think you would though.) I think you should try to get her some help. That rape that she wrote, the fact that you read it, don't be mad at her. This is normal for someone that went through that. I remember in junior high I would blurt it to all of my friend and anyone who would listen. Even now I do it on Facebook because there is always someone who will listen. It's her way right now of not holding things in. But she is not okay, I can tell that. Most friends will pull away if you try to push them to get help, but how much do you really love her as a friend? Worst outcome --> Would you rather she be pissed at you for a very long time but be getting the help she needs?

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  • Racoon
    13 years ago

    get away from her. I had a ,'friend'' like this and she got hospitalized because her parents finally stop denying and see that she as mental issues

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  • ConcernedMonky
    13 years ago

    lol

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