I still think it those reasons can be overlooked by anyone strong enough...why give in to peer pressure? Family pressure I understand a bit more (particularly from a cultural perspective) but I still think it's foolish to let such a big decision be governed by what others think over what you think.
Until recently, I was learning to be content with the idea of being 'a loner' forever. I have friends who are still in that situation. It happens, and it's only a bad thing to be alone if it's not what you want, same as it's a bad thing to be in a relationship if it's not what you want.
Sometimes, these pressures are not even recognised by the individual themselves, particularly where family are concerned. If their expectations have subconsciously shaped your very being and they have been generally harsh and restrictive about your individuality when growing up, these factors often come into play. Families are masters of brainwashing, which by definition, means their effect is recognised until you go through with it and find what the brainwashing was and that marriage really isn't for you as an individual.
Seen it happen often, particularly to women actually.
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You raise some good points. I was a bit harsh.
I still think it those reasons can be overlooked by anyone strong enough...why give in to peer pressure? Family pressure I understand a bit more (particularly from a cultural perspective) but I still think it's foolish to let such a big decision be governed by what others think over what you think.
Until recently, I was learning to be content with the idea of being 'a loner' forever. I have friends who are still in that situation. It happens, and it's only a bad thing to be alone if it's not what you want, same as it's a bad thing to be in a relationship if it's not what you want.
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Sometimes, these pressures are not even recognised by the individual themselves, particularly where family are concerned. If their expectations have subconsciously shaped your very being and they have been generally harsh and restrictive about your individuality when growing up, these factors often come into play. Families are masters of brainwashing, which by definition, means their effect is recognised until you go through with it and find what the brainwashing was and that marriage really isn't for you as an individual.
Seen it happen often, particularly to women actually.