"If a couple don't have children, what is a woman supposed to get out of being a wife? "
Companionship, I suppose? Someone to be with, who she loves and who loves her? Someone to share life with?
"If she is perfectly capable of being self-sufficient, can satisfy her own sexual needs by herself, doesn't require hugs or companionship and enjoys being alone, what is the need? "
Anyone who gets married yet doesn't want any of these...is an idiot. Why put the other person through an unwanted relationship, to that degree?
"What is the (admirable) pride many women seem to feel about being a "wife" (ie married as opposed to being a partner/girlfriend etc)?"
This I don't know. To me, it doesn't matter if I'm married or not, I know I want to be with my bf no matter what. It makes no difference if we have a legal arrangement (marriage certificate) or not. If he wanted to, fine, but it wouldn't change how I feel about him.
I still think it those reasons can be overlooked by anyone strong enough...why give in to peer pressure? Family pressure I understand a bit more (particularly from a cultural perspective) but I still think it's foolish to let such a big decision be governed by what others think over what you think.
Until recently, I was learning to be content with the idea of being 'a loner' forever. I have friends who are still in that situation. It happens, and it's only a bad thing to be alone if it's not what you want, same as it's a bad thing to be in a relationship if it's not what you want.
Sometimes, these pressures are not even recognised by the individual themselves, particularly where family are concerned. If their expectations have subconsciously shaped your very being and they have been generally harsh and restrictive about your individuality when growing up, these factors often come into play. Families are masters of brainwashing, which by definition, means their effect is recognised until you go through with it and find what the brainwashing was and that marriage really isn't for you as an individual.
Seen it happen often, particularly to women actually.
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"If a couple don't have children, what is a woman supposed to get out of being a wife? "
Companionship, I suppose? Someone to be with, who she loves and who loves her? Someone to share life with?
"If she is perfectly capable of being self-sufficient, can satisfy her own sexual needs by herself, doesn't require hugs or companionship and enjoys being alone, what is the need? "
Anyone who gets married yet doesn't want any of these...is an idiot. Why put the other person through an unwanted relationship, to that degree?
"What is the (admirable) pride many women seem to feel about being a "wife" (ie married as opposed to being a partner/girlfriend etc)?"
This I don't know. To me, it doesn't matter if I'm married or not, I know I want to be with my bf no matter what. It makes no difference if we have a legal arrangement (marriage certificate) or not. If he wanted to, fine, but it wouldn't change how I feel about him.
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"Anyone who gets married yet doesn't want any of these...is an idiot. Why put the other person through an unwanted relationship, to that degree?"
Some people experience tremendous pressure from family to get married.
Some do not have the opportunity to find out it's not for them beforehand.
Some simply have to go through it to find out they don't like it.
There is a lot of psychological pressure in the world at large to be in relationships and to be seen as abnormal if you are a loner.
So many reasons why this can happen...
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You raise some good points. I was a bit harsh.
I still think it those reasons can be overlooked by anyone strong enough...why give in to peer pressure? Family pressure I understand a bit more (particularly from a cultural perspective) but I still think it's foolish to let such a big decision be governed by what others think over what you think.
Until recently, I was learning to be content with the idea of being 'a loner' forever. I have friends who are still in that situation. It happens, and it's only a bad thing to be alone if it's not what you want, same as it's a bad thing to be in a relationship if it's not what you want.
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Sometimes, these pressures are not even recognised by the individual themselves, particularly where family are concerned. If their expectations have subconsciously shaped your very being and they have been generally harsh and restrictive about your individuality when growing up, these factors often come into play. Families are masters of brainwashing, which by definition, means their effect is recognised until you go through with it and find what the brainwashing was and that marriage really isn't for you as an individual.
Seen it happen often, particularly to women actually.