Becoming best friends with someone with autism?

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He's a guy I'm a girl. We literally have nothing in common but we somehow get along so well.

He has aspergers and I'm neurotypical so he's definitely weird to me but it somehow works because I find his aspergers to be endearing and makes him even more interesting than he already is.

Is this unusual/normal? I feel like many would judge me for this yet at the same time I couldn't care less.

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago | pl

Sounds like you two are tight. Go right ahead and be his pal. People who judge you for it can go to hell. None of their business anyway.

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paramore93

4 years ago | pl

I find it baffling that people would judge you for this. Fuck 'em.

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geek_god_101

4 years ago

These are the kinds of friendships and relationships that need to happen. I want to thank the OP for posting a great post. Keep reaching out. You make the difference for people with Autism and/or Asperger's. Thank you :D

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Wellyoudliketoknoweh

4 years ago

Go for it, you’re a nice one, ignore the others:)

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bbrown95

4 years ago

Anyone who would judge you for this isn't a good person, and definitely not someone whose opinion you should take seriously.

It's completely normal and fine! My best friend is also a male and hasn't been diagnosed with anything, but is considered a bit slow by most people. We click really well and I deeply care about him. Anyone who has a problem with it is not worth my time, honestly.

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Grunewald

4 years ago

Asperger's isn't autism...

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- Ellenna
  
  4 years ago
  
  It is on the autism spectrum
  
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- charli.m
  
  4 years ago
  
  ...they're both ASDs...
  
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  - Grunewald
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yes, but they are far from being the same thing. You appreciate this when you know people with asperger's and autism.
    
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    - charli.m
      
      4 years ago
      
      I do know people with both.
      
      You also have claimed that ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia are ASDs. They're not. So you're gonna have to forgive me for thinking you don't understand what you're talking about.
      
      Potential comorbidity doesn't equate.
      
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leggs91200

4 years ago

This sounds like an idea for one of those old McDonald's commercials where it was all touching and sentimental.
Like this one -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOQxkO34Ltg

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Cuntsiclestick

4 years ago

Meh, if you both enjoy hanging out dont worry about what others think. XD

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Michael1991

4 years ago

I have autism and I thank you for posting this aswell.

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Boojum

4 years ago

Fucking hell! Twenty-one votes as a write this, and 100% normal. That's very abnormal for this place.

Even if someone asked if their sexual obsession with slugs was normal, it's a dead cert that at least a couple of trolls would say it was.

As for the question itself, I agree with those who say that if someone should ever be critical of your relationship with the guy, you should tell them to fuck off. As long as you and the guy treat each other with respect, you enjoy being with each other and you're able to communicate well enough to resolve any disagreements, that's all that matters.

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- mauzi
  
  4 years ago
  
  It's painfully normal, sounds more like someone virtue-signalling than being genuine. "Omg look how good a person I am i can treat someone with asperger's like a normal person! isn't that crazy!?!" It's a bit condescending
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    4 years ago
    
    I wasn't looking for praise, I was simply asking if it's normal as I have been given all sorts of rude looks from people already.. one example is being heavily stared at often when I go out to lunch with him.
    
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    - mauzi
      
      4 years ago
      
      What makes you think that people are giving you rude looks and staring because of him? most aspies appear completely normal from outside judgement, sounds more like you are just really insecure and projecting your own negativity.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        I'm not at all insecure about it, I never cared that he has aspergers.
        
        Last experience I was at a restaurant and everything was great but on both sides of me I had people just watching. There was a woman with her husband at the table next to us, all the tables were close there as they squeeze them in and I heard clear as day say I hope she's not dating him. Yes they do absolutely watch.
        
        It hurt to hear because he's an absolutely amazing friend. Sure he's quirky but how almost any time I go somewhere people have to look or make rude comments is deeply confusing and upsetting to me.
        
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        mauzi
        
        4 years ago
        
        What makes you think she was talking about you? And why were you that interested in a stranger's conversation anyway?
        
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chuy

4 years ago

You befriended Trump? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Doesnormalmatter

4 years ago

As long as your not taking advantage of him sexually or otherwise, your fine. Its contraversial but I think you doing the right thing.

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