I'm a loner and rarely hang out or speak to my friends. Does that mean I don't like them? No! Does that mean I find it annoying when they ask how I am? No! I do get worried they think I don't like them. I've had friends stop asking to do things with me because I said no a lot. The reason I say no is because I have anxiety and almost always feel uncomfortable leaving my house. If someone offers to come over to see me, my anxiety makes me worried that I won't be able to entertain them once they get here and I'll annoy them. You sound like you need someone to show you the kind of friendship you show others, just one person like yourself would make you feel better. You're really making yourself feel more lonely by having the expectation that others all feel like you. You might be thinking everyone cares deeply for people so when you don't get what you expect you feel like they're doing on purpose? I've been there, so I speak from experience. Most of these low socializers enjoy being alone, and can live off hardly any socializing (think introverts) others are busy and can't juggle a social Life. Others have anxiety disorders and there's nothing you can do to help them, so don't take it personally. You're seeking a deep friendship that is hard to find, even acquaintances are difficult. You just need to give it time and learn to be your own best friend.
BE HONEST IIN I feel like no one cares about friends these days?
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I'm a loner and rarely hang out or speak to my friends. Does that mean I don't like them? No! Does that mean I find it annoying when they ask how I am? No! I do get worried they think I don't like them. I've had friends stop asking to do things with me because I said no a lot. The reason I say no is because I have anxiety and almost always feel uncomfortable leaving my house. If someone offers to come over to see me, my anxiety makes me worried that I won't be able to entertain them once they get here and I'll annoy them. You sound like you need someone to show you the kind of friendship you show others, just one person like yourself would make you feel better. You're really making yourself feel more lonely by having the expectation that others all feel like you. You might be thinking everyone cares deeply for people so when you don't get what you expect you feel like they're doing on purpose? I've been there, so I speak from experience. Most of these low socializers enjoy being alone, and can live off hardly any socializing (think introverts) others are busy and can't juggle a social Life. Others have anxiety disorders and there's nothing you can do to help them, so don't take it personally. You're seeking a deep friendship that is hard to find, even acquaintances are difficult. You just need to give it time and learn to be your own best friend.