Be a bum @ 30yo

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I'm hoping you can help.
Im a 27yo female and Ive rekindled a relationship with my high school sweetheart and after a year he moved in with me. Its been 3 months since we moved in and im pulling my hair out. Im finding that he's very manipulative. Whenever we have a disagreement he can never understand my point of view and turns the situation on me to make himself right. Now im a very relaxed person and im not much for arguments so i will just say ok and let him go on thinking he's right. I feel like the man in the relationship. All he does is argue. But during one argument i became so enraged i swung on him....which was very wrong and i know that.

Recently he lost his job due to his argumentative attitude and was short with the rent. And just handed me the money like it was all good telling me i don't understand the black man's struggle. I want to kick him out but he always drop hints that he has no where to go. Am i not understanding the "black man's struggle" or should i kick his ass out because i don't want to turn 30 and end up with a loser. Please Advise.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    I say that he's a loser because he's short on the rent and yet still finds weed money....because he's "stressed out"....the more I think about it the more over him I become.

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    • JonathanOo
      6 years ago

      Sounds more like he is trying to get off easy rather than work as hard as possible to amend things. You should try counseling if possible. If he Isn't willing to change and put his best effort into the relationship, that's bad news for the future...

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Maybe not so much the "black man's struggle", as the manipulative male's struggle to find a female sucker to exploit.

    I agree with the previous comment about getting away from manipulative people as soon as possible. If he's good, he'll eventually find the right buttons to push to guilt you in to doing exactly what he wants. I wouldn't be surprised if he mentions how you tried to hit him whenever he wants to make you feel guilty. The fact that he enraged you enough to provoke this response indicates that this is very definitely not a healthy relationship.

    I don't like confrontation either, but if you remain relaxed about this, you'll wake up in a few years wondering how the hell you ended up where you are.

    Being sympathetic and understanding is good, but that doesn't mean you have to take on the responsibility of making everything better for him. You don't have to let yourself be used, and you definitely don't have to accept responsibility for putting right a few centuries of racial descrimination.

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  • paramore93
    6 years ago

    Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me.
    I've been with a manipulator and it is not fair on you. They don't get better, just sloowly get worse.
    Just my opinion but I'd kick him out before he has the chance to fk up your life any more.

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    • bob7
      6 years ago

      I disagree , just because he lost his job doesnt mean hes a loser, happens to everyone , he will find another

      Also there is no such thing as argumentative attitude , i think you might be the one to give him the reason to argue

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      • paramore93
        6 years ago

        That doesn't really have anything to do with what I said ..
        You obviously have no experience with master manipulators ..
        Job or no job, those people will run you down until there's nothing left ..

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        • bob7
          6 years ago

          So if your smart enough to find out that a master manipulator is manipulating you , that you are immune ;)

          However , i didnt mention anything about the manipulation in my comment , i commented about the other stuff she is saying about her bf

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  • sillygirl77
    6 years ago

    If you think he's a bum (you called him one), dump him

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    He sounds like a manipulative, punk ass bitch. Dump his lazy, entitled ass! If you let him stay he will suck you dry, because that's what people like him do.

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