Basically, why did she flirt with others when i invited her out

So I'm 27f and I offered this beautiful woman to come with me to next LGBT event. She said shes def keen! I also said I'm taking some my wnates and said I'd buy her a drink. Does that alone tell her, I am interested in her ? She arrives and I miss seeing her at the door and then find her among people 20 mins later and she was looking for me. She and I flirted a lot yet she also flirted with others. One women drunk af came up to her and they placed their hands on each other and that women kissed her. Ffs I was upset! Me and her had deep eye contact, hand holding, shed grind on me moments. Idk why she didnt lean in for a kiss? She was pretty drunk. Ig she isnt the hook up type? She didn't let me drop her home ? Either

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  • It sounds as if you expected her to give you her sole attention, and that's not realistic. IF you really want to get to know her and work out if it's worth pursuing a relationship, ask her out on an actual date with just the two of you. If she refuses she's not interested, so just move on.

    By the way, what are wnates?

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  • I dont think this is normal. It was disrespectful and inconsiderate for her to kiss others on yalls "date".

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    • I domt know of she thought it was a "date"??

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  • She might be looking to see if you are a psycho jealous fuck that goes ape shit because she talks to other guys. Or she might just be a social butterfly. They love the conversation, the attention.

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    • Read it again: they're both women. Same suggestion applies though.

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      • I would say YOU read it again. NOWHERE doea the writer say "I am female." Just because they are going to an LGBT event does not imply they are both female. Or is it supposed to ? After all this is the year 2020. I usually dont assume.

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        • Ima women you fool

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        • I didn't assume anything: OP describes herself as 27f, doesn't that mean she's female? Or am I not up to date with the alphabet soup these days?

          Read it again yourself!

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          • Dam wtf I'm a woman!! Born a women

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    • Apparently she's introverted though ..

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      • Introverted? It doesn't sound like it to me!

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        • She is, she doesn't go to many of the events and first time I saw her 2 weeks ago she didn't stay to play pool and was shy af

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          • Introverted people don't usually flirt in public, unless she was drunk or high on something? Maybe she's just introverted and shy with you?

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            • https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i-really-want-to-kiss-and-have-sex-with-her-but--idk-how-she-feels-295170

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            • Do I ask her if I can kiss her

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            • Awww cuteee

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  • Perhaps its normal. Some people are natural flirts and flirt with others their entire lives. They also can control going much farther. For this group - its harmless.

    Some cannot control going further. For that group its not harmless in most cases (unless they have an equivalent partner and open relationship agreement).]

    There are others who flirt with others because they are not really that interested in you. That is not harmless. It is however, quite normal.

    Have fun figuring out which group she is in...

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