Bait and switch parents

I'm a 25 year old male

My parents always say how they want to hear from me, and they want to have a better relationship.

However my father will immediately stop listening whenever I talk, he will just want to talk and will be dismissive of anything I say

My mother will always steer the conversation to being about me and try to talk about anything personal with me, and anything I feel negative about. Always trying to get me to talk about feelings I have.

My sisters and my parents as well always see me as the bad one for not wanting a relationship with them anymore.

I'm a sensitive person and I can't deal with the manipulation and their complete lack of acceptance of who I actually am.

I've told them their behavior that bothers me and they deny doing it, or say they don't remember, or they tell me bad things that I do. And then they insist I tell them what they do that bothers me as if these conversations never happened.

The only reason I've interacted with them has been out of guilt, but I now have stopped entirely.

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Comments ( 5 )
  • RoseIsabella

    I feel for you, man.

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  • Nickvey

    have kids and they all treat your kids like they should have treated you to make up for it. its cool how my parents give my kids allowance and help with college finances, cars ect. i tell you what as people get older and closer to death they all become republicans.

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  • Dustyair

    Families are a nightmare.

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  • bunnyhabit

    they are your only parents, you will feel bad when they are gone. visit infrequently and continue to voice your objections. we all have crosses to bear.
    some day they may back down

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  • It seems like you're doing well. They are unresponsive to your requests, so it's the right thing to do. I mean, people force you to talk to them, but then you have no rights in this dialogue? You're required to talk, but they make the rules? There's no respect for you here. You stood up for yourself very well. If they want to talk to you, they must understand you don't want to talk in some specific ways or about specific topics. If they reject, you're fully entitled to reject the conversation as well. I don't think you're the sensitive one here, I think they're ignorant towards you. Nobody wants to be in that kind of conversation where they have no rights. That's not even a conversation anymore, it's a lecture, so I don't find a problem with you or with your own feelings in this. Just keep the distance, until they accept to include your own rules in the game too, not only theirs. If they do, you can return, if they don't, stay away. If you accept, they'll continue, because it's obvious from reaching this critical stage that they won't change without serious pressure, or might not change at all. Hope this helps.

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