Bad friendships?

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I have a group of 3 friends, and no matter what I always feel like I'm the third wheel. Seeing them talking without me makes me feel like they enjoy themselves more when I'm not involved. They make plans with each other and don't bother to invite me. They say negative things amount me and say how I'm "forgettable" or "unnoticeable" I'm always feeling unwanted around them and I've been self harming and crying everyday because of it. One of the girls has been my best friend since 1st grade (we're high school sophomores now) and we've done everything together since then. I did stage crew for a different school's theater department which was the only thing I did without her and made friends without being associated in the "package deal" people see us as. She started doing it and now I am sick of her, she is so repressive and judgmental and crew was the only place I could be myself. I feel like my crew friends are going to like her better than me and I'm going to end up being the third wheel all over again.

Is it normal for a friendship to feel like this?

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  • spunkyturtle
    10 years ago | pl

    Almost the same situation happened to me! You need to get out now. I got out in eigth grade,its difficult but you need to recover from the self harm you've started. It took me a while for that,but its so worth it.love yourself and you won't need any one else.you don't deserve friends who treat u badly.you don't have to be enemies,but u don't have to be friends.

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  • bananaface
    10 years ago | pl

    No, I don't think it's normal for friendship to feel like that. Your friends are supposed to make you feel better about yourself and support you, not the opposite. If I were you, I'd try making some new friends.

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  • meowpower
    10 years ago | pl

    I can relate to some extent.. but its not healthy to put urself thru this. If yr "friends" r putting u down or u feel inclined 2 hurt urself bcuz of them, they're NOT ur real friends. Ur happiness comes first.

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  • xVioiVx
    10 years ago | pl

    Self harm = Bad!

    Find new friends

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  • oldieolds
    9 years ago | pl

    It's not normal because their not your friends.

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