The intent is not to just be a jerk, it's to let her know her place in our workplace because she's so arrogant, loud and not competent or experienced enough and keeps trying to interfe in stuff she has no knowledge about
People who are like that often don't realise it. And people who are new are often anxious to impress, make themselves useful and take on responsibilitues, and they come across as arrogant because they feel insecure and are looking for positive feedback so that they can feel better about themselves. Just let her know that she's doing fine, and have her understand that there's nothing more she needs to do or say to convince you that she's capable of doing a good job. If she's already anxious deep down, then 'putting her in her place' in an offensive way could really upset her. Then she'll get even more insecure, and you could end up bogged down with even more problem behaviours from her.
Dude, what's wrong with you? Don't you want to understand other people and avoid conflict, irrespective of who's in the wrong and who's in the right? Isn't it obvious to you - even if you don't care much for the other person's wellbeing - that however wrong she is, returning a wrong for a wrong is just going to make things worse and potentially get you into trouble too?
There are ways of acting on annoying behaviours that carry a lesser risk of making other people unhappy, or making relationships worse, or getting us into trouble.
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The intent is not to just be a jerk, it's to let her know her place in our workplace because she's so arrogant, loud and not competent or experienced enough and keeps trying to interfe in stuff she has no knowledge about
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People who are like that often don't realise it. And people who are new are often anxious to impress, make themselves useful and take on responsibilitues, and they come across as arrogant because they feel insecure and are looking for positive feedback so that they can feel better about themselves. Just let her know that she's doing fine, and have her understand that there's nothing more she needs to do or say to convince you that she's capable of doing a good job. If she's already anxious deep down, then 'putting her in her place' in an offensive way could really upset her. Then she'll get even more insecure, and you could end up bogged down with even more problem behaviours from her.
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Good points you have there but shes disrupting my work!
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Dude, what's wrong with you? Don't you want to understand other people and avoid conflict, irrespective of who's in the wrong and who's in the right? Isn't it obvious to you - even if you don't care much for the other person's wellbeing - that however wrong she is, returning a wrong for a wrong is just going to make things worse and potentially get you into trouble too?
There are ways of acting on annoying behaviours that carry a lesser risk of making other people unhappy, or making relationships worse, or getting us into trouble.