People seem to be interpreting your question in more than one way. Some people are thinking of the child, and some people are thinking of the other attendees. Taking you at your word, though, you seem to be thinking of the appropriateness.
To answer all of those, I don't see that an eight month old would be scarred by being at a funeral, and if your child is well-behaved then I don't see a problem with him being there. As for appropriateness, if your friend was part of the baby's life, then I think it's appropriate. I feel some resentment that I was excluded from my godmother's funeral (she died way too young when I was still a child, although not a baby).
Great answer as always! :D I also know what you mean about resentment, my Nana died when I was 5 but I never went to her funeral and as a result, have no idea where she is or what happened to her.
So I feel resentment about that as well as not getting the chance to say goodbye. So for the OP, it won't harm the child to go there, they'll probably just be curious and it's better they learn about this stuff, this world isn't made out of cotton wool after all.
Yeah, my mum and dad wouldn't let me, my sister or my brother go with them to see my grandma in hospital even though they knew it was serious. She died two days later and I've always felt bad about this. My grandad died when I was five and I wasn't allowed to that funeral either.
If you want to find out where your Nana is, by the way, it's not that difficult these days. I did a lot of that kind of stuff when I was on a genealogy kick years ago. If you want to visit her and lay some flowers, you can. You're an intelligent girl - I'm sure you'll work it out. :)
Aww, that's so sad but I suppose our elders thought they were protecting us instead and shielding us from the pain. Most good intentions seem to be wrong most of the time lol :)
And I think I know what you mean, I did try a little while ago to search but it was hard with not so much to go on. I think I'll have to dig up what info I can and try to search through the records etc. Thank you though, I appreciate it a lot! :D :)
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People seem to be interpreting your question in more than one way. Some people are thinking of the child, and some people are thinking of the other attendees. Taking you at your word, though, you seem to be thinking of the appropriateness.
To answer all of those, I don't see that an eight month old would be scarred by being at a funeral, and if your child is well-behaved then I don't see a problem with him being there. As for appropriateness, if your friend was part of the baby's life, then I think it's appropriate. I feel some resentment that I was excluded from my godmother's funeral (she died way too young when I was still a child, although not a baby).
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Great answer as always! :D I also know what you mean about resentment, my Nana died when I was 5 but I never went to her funeral and as a result, have no idea where she is or what happened to her.
So I feel resentment about that as well as not getting the chance to say goodbye. So for the OP, it won't harm the child to go there, they'll probably just be curious and it's better they learn about this stuff, this world isn't made out of cotton wool after all.
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Yeah, my mum and dad wouldn't let me, my sister or my brother go with them to see my grandma in hospital even though they knew it was serious. She died two days later and I've always felt bad about this. My grandad died when I was five and I wasn't allowed to that funeral either.
If you want to find out where your Nana is, by the way, it's not that difficult these days. I did a lot of that kind of stuff when I was on a genealogy kick years ago. If you want to visit her and lay some flowers, you can. You're an intelligent girl - I'm sure you'll work it out. :)
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Aww, that's so sad but I suppose our elders thought they were protecting us instead and shielding us from the pain. Most good intentions seem to be wrong most of the time lol :)
And I think I know what you mean, I did try a little while ago to search but it was hard with not so much to go on. I think I'll have to dig up what info I can and try to search through the records etc. Thank you though, I appreciate it a lot! :D :)