Well I don't want to say it's normal because it's a defeatist attitude - but I think everyone feels that way at some point. You gotta stop thinking like that though.
My (unsolicited) advice is to be constructive, if there's something about yourself you don't feel good about work towards changing it instead of worrying about it. Would you still be "ugly" if you adopted a harder workout routine? Would your personality still be "bad" if you took some time to focus on the relationships in your life and how what you do affects them?
I don't mean to be presumptuous, I'm just speaking from personal experience, because I've felt that way and I wouldn't want to go back to feeling that way - and it was a long painful process to stop feeling that way. I obviously don't know your situation, so all I can do is hope that maybe some of this rings true for you.
A lot of people told me to just be confident. I felt like there was just some magic key that no one was telling me that could get girls to notice me. Well confidence wasn't just a switch I could turn on, but a culmination of a lot of experiences and a slow, committed change of attitude. And it turned out that even when I was chubby, plenty of girls still did notice me, I just took it for granted because I didn't feel good about myself.
Things don't change overnight, but you might feel better in the long run.
Feeling good about yourself, after all, is a great first step towards constant nookie.
Awkward around girls.
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Well I don't want to say it's normal because it's a defeatist attitude - but I think everyone feels that way at some point. You gotta stop thinking like that though.
My (unsolicited) advice is to be constructive, if there's something about yourself you don't feel good about work towards changing it instead of worrying about it. Would you still be "ugly" if you adopted a harder workout routine? Would your personality still be "bad" if you took some time to focus on the relationships in your life and how what you do affects them?
I don't mean to be presumptuous, I'm just speaking from personal experience, because I've felt that way and I wouldn't want to go back to feeling that way - and it was a long painful process to stop feeling that way. I obviously don't know your situation, so all I can do is hope that maybe some of this rings true for you.
A lot of people told me to just be confident. I felt like there was just some magic key that no one was telling me that could get girls to notice me. Well confidence wasn't just a switch I could turn on, but a culmination of a lot of experiences and a slow, committed change of attitude. And it turned out that even when I was chubby, plenty of girls still did notice me, I just took it for granted because I didn't feel good about myself.
Things don't change overnight, but you might feel better in the long run.
Feeling good about yourself, after all, is a great first step towards constant nookie.