I would agree with Floydzie where she says that not having sex by a certain age is more sad than weird.
I think that, in order to be a virgin at 40, it would say more about a person's interpersonal skills and interactions with the world around them than anything else.
If you live a "normal" life (as in, you leave the house on a regular basis and interact with people on a regular basis and you have personal goals such as a job, education, volunteering etc.) and you have at least the most basic social skills and your self esteem isn't TERRIBLE, then you will find that you will have the chance to form MANY interpersonal relationships: close relationships, shallow relationships, casual relationships, etc.
Assuming that you are not a complete jerk, you will inevitably find people that will appreciate your company no matter what your interests are. You will form those connections and one of them, if given the time and effort, would eventually lead to a sexual relationship. Sure, you probably won't find those relationships often or at every turn in the road of your life, but if you are living in such a manner as you are working on yourself and your goals, it is very likely to happen, even to the most unusual of personality types.
That is part of the reason why it is called "The Dating Game". In order for you to win it, you have to be in it, and by "it", I mean in social society in general.
At 19, no one could expect you to have the knowledge and skills to be able to form a meaningful enough of a relationship to have a sexual relationship and no one could expect you to be comfortable enough with yourself or your goals for that to be an inevitability for you. I would say that so long as you are interacting with people and doing something with your life, you are very likely to find someone. Look at my husband! All he did was work, he wasn't very social and he is, by many accounts, a very unusual person and often difficult to like by others due to his social mannerisms... but we are in a good marriage and have sex on a very regular basis.
So come the time you are in your late 30's and you have still yet to develop a relationship that has led to sex, you should worry and possibly change your lifestyle habits but until then, it's not weird or sad.
Wow thank you. I do have a normal life, with real goals, and a decent amount of social skills. This really makes me believe that everything will be ok. I needed this.
Deep, personal relationships do not always turn into romantic relationships. Just be open to the possibility and it will likely happen eventually. It's not a guarantee, but it's a likelihood if you do make those sort of interactions.
At what age does it become strange for someone to be a virgin?
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I would agree with Floydzie where she says that not having sex by a certain age is more sad than weird.
I think that, in order to be a virgin at 40, it would say more about a person's interpersonal skills and interactions with the world around them than anything else.
If you live a "normal" life (as in, you leave the house on a regular basis and interact with people on a regular basis and you have personal goals such as a job, education, volunteering etc.) and you have at least the most basic social skills and your self esteem isn't TERRIBLE, then you will find that you will have the chance to form MANY interpersonal relationships: close relationships, shallow relationships, casual relationships, etc.
Assuming that you are not a complete jerk, you will inevitably find people that will appreciate your company no matter what your interests are. You will form those connections and one of them, if given the time and effort, would eventually lead to a sexual relationship. Sure, you probably won't find those relationships often or at every turn in the road of your life, but if you are living in such a manner as you are working on yourself and your goals, it is very likely to happen, even to the most unusual of personality types.
That is part of the reason why it is called "The Dating Game". In order for you to win it, you have to be in it, and by "it", I mean in social society in general.
At 19, no one could expect you to have the knowledge and skills to be able to form a meaningful enough of a relationship to have a sexual relationship and no one could expect you to be comfortable enough with yourself or your goals for that to be an inevitability for you. I would say that so long as you are interacting with people and doing something with your life, you are very likely to find someone. Look at my husband! All he did was work, he wasn't very social and he is, by many accounts, a very unusual person and often difficult to like by others due to his social mannerisms... but we are in a good marriage and have sex on a very regular basis.
So come the time you are in your late 30's and you have still yet to develop a relationship that has led to sex, you should worry and possibly change your lifestyle habits but until then, it's not weird or sad.
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Wow thank you. I do have a normal life, with real goals, and a decent amount of social skills. This really makes me believe that everything will be ok. I needed this.
That was beautiful. Seriously this is one of the best pieces of advice I've seen on this site for awhile.
Although I am still concerned, I have formed hundreds of interpersonal relationships and not one has developed into a sexual kind. Why is that?
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Deep, personal relationships do not always turn into romantic relationships. Just be open to the possibility and it will likely happen eventually. It's not a guarantee, but it's a likelihood if you do make those sort of interactions.