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When I was in elementary school I had crushes on boys and girls. I didn't figure out there was a word for it until middle school. It's been years, and I'm still bisexual at 32.
How about you guys?
I'm 20 and still don't know where to put myself because sexuality is complicated
I've always been clear that I'm definitely straight, but the older I've gotten, the more I've wondered why people feel that they have to slap some sort of invisible, sexual orientation label on their chest.
Sexuality is complicated. Life would be easier for many if it was a simple case of either/or, but researchers concluded a long time ago that sexuality can best be described by where one is on a spectrum of same- or opposite-sex attraction and another spectrum of intensity. It's also known that it's not impossible for an individual to shift on one or both of those spectra over time.
I do understand that many people feel they must proclaim their allegiance to a particular team, but it seems to me that if someone feels under pressure from their social circle to make that sort of declaration when they're not ready to do so, then the main thing that indicates is that they should be looking for a new circle of friends.
When I was in my teen years I always thought to myself if I was bi, but then when I became an adult I started to really question myself and figured that I was destined to be straight.
It’s been a journey, I first wondered if I was gay aged 11 as I felt so comfortable and understood around my best friend that I worried I was falling in love, but I wasn’t, it was just my first close friendship. Throughout my teens when the heterosexual attraction I was told to expect never materialised I started to think I was gay again, but I felt equally indifferent to boys and girls so I (not thinking asexual was an option) told people I was bisexual.
I grew up a bit, experimented with making out, fondling and oral sex hoping that the attraction would come with time, but it never did. I hated when people asked me what my type was or who I fancied because I didn’t have answers to those questions.
Finally aged 22 I watched a YouTube video on signs of asexuality and it was like all the puzzle pieces fell seamlessly into place. A few weeks of research and forum discussion later I told my friends I was asexual and this year, nearly 3 years later, I put it on the census. I feel like I’m the head asexual of IIN too at this point.
Interesting story, asexual is certainly a seldom discussed sexuality and still goes under the radar today so it must've been tricky alright figuring yourself out. Glad you did though.
I've always known I was straight. Although there was a point of confusion when I was a teenager since I was very feminine and acted stereotypically gay. I questioned whether I was really straight after all, it sounds silly but then I was still an impressionable kid at that point. But after looking at some gay porn I quickly realised that I definitely wasn't. I did end up crossdressing later on though, and I've often thought that I'd be comfortable as a female. I don't feel any body dysphoria though so I am male.
When I hit puberty and my sex drive appeared, making my mind up for me, just like everyone else. It’s not a choice, it’s biologically done for you.
I'm not sure when exactly I realized I was asexual. It started with me having very little interest in dating and none at all in sex, and being told I "just wasn't ready yet" and "just hadn't met the right person yet". As time went on, I realized I just didn't have any sexual urges like other people. My friends were all obsessed with sex in their teens and I never wanted it, and still don't. I held into the "just not ready/just haven't met the right person" thing for awhile, until I realized that if I was well into my 20's and "not ready", I likely never will be. So, I guess I started knowing for sure sometime in the past couple of years.
About 16 or 17, all the other people in high school were dating as many people as they could & talking about/having sex constantly & I was confused because I didn't feel the need to do either.
At some point early in my elementary school years.
My first sorta-sexual memory is watching a parade go by (my recollection is that I was standing at the front of the crowd along the street, so I must have been pretty young) and finding the baton-twirling high school cheerleaders at the front of the school marching bands strangely fascinating because of their short skirts. This was back in the early sixties in a rather backwater part of the States, so you didn't often see a lot of female leg, and girls who were flaunting it were ever rarer.
Nowadays, of course, a lot more than what I saw way back then can be seen just about everywhere.
It's simple. People say its "complicated" and bitch about gender pronouns roles and all that jive.
Point is this... You like what you like and that's all there is too it.
Making your own sexuality complicated leads me to believe you like the hype and controversy.
I dunno, I've always liked girls. Their beautiful hair, their mannerisms, everything just looked right... I never saw boys as anything more than friends to goof off with, while growing up...
I realised it about when I was 12. Before I was homophobic but then i started to learn more about the LGBT+Q community.
I sorta had a thing for other girl's boobs and butts, and then I realised that maybe i liked boys and girls.
Did a full 360 in two years lol
I never had to do that. I was born with a penis and that set my sexuality. Your gender is set by your chromosomes. Anything else is a preference.
I was really into boys when I was a kid (I'm a girl). In my mid teens I was into women mostly, I was such a huge tomboy, I wish I could have been one of the guys. In my late teens I began being attracted to boys again and still am until this day.
I married a man and I'm female, but I can't claim i'm straight or bi or gay or any of that. Maybe pan? I dunno I'm attracted to the person. I'm 43 and I still really haven't labeled it. I love my husband want a long life with him, but if I weren't married I think gender wouldn't be part of my choice of who I dated
I don't remember ever not knowing. Then again, I've always been attracted to the opposite sex, which is what is expected by most people, so perhaps I never really had to think about it.
I've like the same group since like 9 .h interests have just become more powerful
At 13 I thought I was gay because I liked boys so much, but then I started making out with girls and I was very confused until I goy to college and learned I was bi.
I am straight and knew that t like girls at young age.hanging out with the neighborhood girls and we explore each other not intercourse, but I love squeezing them little tites and kissing and touching. But some point in live you always wonder what it be like to play around with with another man dick?