I cant agree with VioletTrees more on not treating him like a child, cause it would more than likely just anger him, and most of the time, wont even think much of what happened (or he will think too much and end up messing up worse by trying too hard to fix it, out of fear) If you want to help him fix a problem, try talking to him privately, and make sure he clearly understands that:
1. You aren't mad at him for messing up.
2. make sure he is aware what he did was not the best thing to do CALMLY, and suggest to him ways he could fix it.
3.He may feel disappointment at first, but with a little time (and support), he should be able to recognize the mistake and go about fixing it.
If you yell at him or treat him like he is an idiot, he will (9 times out of 10) either blow up in your face, or get really scared and go out of his way to try to avoid the problem,and end up messing up elsewhere. If you treat him as a child alot, he will lose respect for you and not want to hear anything you have to say, even if its not said in anger.
also, even if you are a superior to him (a dad, boss, sargeant, policeman, etc), pulling rank on him is the best way to piss him off. They tend to see people equals, not superiors.
If you do blow up on him, (which will make him mad), if it happens rarely, he could probably forgive you once he cools down. Just don't make a habit of it.
Hope this helps, Legion
(yeah, i know its very long, lol)
Asperger's syndrome
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I cant agree with VioletTrees more on not treating him like a child, cause it would more than likely just anger him, and most of the time, wont even think much of what happened (or he will think too much and end up messing up worse by trying too hard to fix it, out of fear) If you want to help him fix a problem, try talking to him privately, and make sure he clearly understands that:
1. You aren't mad at him for messing up.
2. make sure he is aware what he did was not the best thing to do CALMLY, and suggest to him ways he could fix it.
3.He may feel disappointment at first, but with a little time (and support), he should be able to recognize the mistake and go about fixing it.
If you yell at him or treat him like he is an idiot, he will (9 times out of 10) either blow up in your face, or get really scared and go out of his way to try to avoid the problem,and end up messing up elsewhere. If you treat him as a child alot, he will lose respect for you and not want to hear anything you have to say, even if its not said in anger.
also, even if you are a superior to him (a dad, boss, sargeant, policeman, etc), pulling rank on him is the best way to piss him off. They tend to see people equals, not superiors.
If you do blow up on him, (which will make him mad), if it happens rarely, he could probably forgive you once he cools down. Just don't make a habit of it.
Hope this helps, Legion
(yeah, i know its very long, lol)