NOTE: I'm not a psychologist, but I have Asperger's myself. Take my advice with a grain of salt, since I don't know your kid. Everyone is different, but this is the education that would've been the best for me when I was a kid.
Most of all, you should respect him. I have mild asperger's syndrome, and my teachers treated me as a full-blown retard. Not the kind of treatment you want during high school.
When he does something wrong, tell him. A lot of people make the mistake of being too lenient on misbehaving kids with Asperger's because they "can't help it". That's bullshit. They can help it, it's just that they don't know what they're doing wrong. If you tell them, they're very likely to adjust their behavior.
When it comes to social interaction: Try to push him gently in new situations. I read a comment that said "don't force him to make friends". That's only true to some extent. If he doesn't like a certain kid, he's probably never going to best mates with him. But he should be able to be on good terms with everyone. If he's getting too lonely, you should stimulate him to be more extraverted. It's crucial for him to practice his social skills.
But make sure that he does social stuff he enjoys. For example, if he hates baseball, don't make him join a baseball team. He'll suck at the sport and be ridiculed. Advise him to do an extracurricular activity he's good at, and where he can meet new people. They say people with Asperger's need their alone-time, but like any human being they need a good base of social interaction as well.
Since you've got several kids under your wing, you could organize a little get-together every now and then. That's good for all the kids, not just the one with Asperger's.
And last but not least: be there for him when he needs you, but don't smother him. The major mistake schools make is smothering these kids. Allow him to learn for himself. Don't make him completely dependent on other people's help.
That's all I've got. I hope some of my advice was useful.
Don't worry; I’d never call him that, I already know his name. He was about the only one that came to the orientation so I got to meet him, a lot of freshmen didn't come, so our groups had to form together. That's what I'm worried about I don’t want people to treat him that way, I understand what aspergers is and I know he is not an idiot. Yeah, my group leaders and I did that mistake, since some of our freshmen were uninterested we let it pass, the next time it happens I'll make sure to correct him and any other freshmen’s. Ok, I'll suggest him getting involved in extracurricular activities. Yeah, I'll try not to smother him or any of my other freshmen either. When school starts I have to check up on my students and make sure they are doing well and if they need any help. Ok, I'll remember that. Thank you for the information. It was really helpful. :)
I know you are trying to be nice but I think envisioning the fact he has it is rude. He might be able to make friends just fine. If I was in his position I would be incredibly insulted if that was all you focused on. You know nothing about him but you assume he must be dysfunctional. Why don't you treat him like a normal person and not like some retard. He might have asperger but he is just a kid. I have known people with these type of issues before and I just treat them like normal kids. They are normal kids. So unless you see something they are having serious problems with I would say wait till that point to help them. Instead of saying "Hey you got aspergers you must not know how to do anything".
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NOTE: I'm not a psychologist, but I have Asperger's myself. Take my advice with a grain of salt, since I don't know your kid. Everyone is different, but this is the education that would've been the best for me when I was a kid.
Most of all, you should respect him. I have mild asperger's syndrome, and my teachers treated me as a full-blown retard. Not the kind of treatment you want during high school.
When he does something wrong, tell him. A lot of people make the mistake of being too lenient on misbehaving kids with Asperger's because they "can't help it". That's bullshit. They can help it, it's just that they don't know what they're doing wrong. If you tell them, they're very likely to adjust their behavior.
When it comes to social interaction: Try to push him gently in new situations. I read a comment that said "don't force him to make friends". That's only true to some extent. If he doesn't like a certain kid, he's probably never going to best mates with him. But he should be able to be on good terms with everyone. If he's getting too lonely, you should stimulate him to be more extraverted. It's crucial for him to practice his social skills.
But make sure that he does social stuff he enjoys. For example, if he hates baseball, don't make him join a baseball team. He'll suck at the sport and be ridiculed. Advise him to do an extracurricular activity he's good at, and where he can meet new people. They say people with Asperger's need their alone-time, but like any human being they need a good base of social interaction as well.
Since you've got several kids under your wing, you could organize a little get-together every now and then. That's good for all the kids, not just the one with Asperger's.
And last but not least: be there for him when he needs you, but don't smother him. The major mistake schools make is smothering these kids. Allow him to learn for himself. Don't make him completely dependent on other people's help.
That's all I've got. I hope some of my advice was useful.
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ps. Don't EVER call him an 'aspie'. He's at an age where he needs to develop his identity, so labeling him is not the way to go.
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Don't worry; I’d never call him that, I already know his name. He was about the only one that came to the orientation so I got to meet him, a lot of freshmen didn't come, so our groups had to form together. That's what I'm worried about I don’t want people to treat him that way, I understand what aspergers is and I know he is not an idiot. Yeah, my group leaders and I did that mistake, since some of our freshmen were uninterested we let it pass, the next time it happens I'll make sure to correct him and any other freshmen’s. Ok, I'll suggest him getting involved in extracurricular activities. Yeah, I'll try not to smother him or any of my other freshmen either. When school starts I have to check up on my students and make sure they are doing well and if they need any help. Ok, I'll remember that. Thank you for the information. It was really helpful. :)
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I know you are trying to be nice but I think envisioning the fact he has it is rude. He might be able to make friends just fine. If I was in his position I would be incredibly insulted if that was all you focused on. You know nothing about him but you assume he must be dysfunctional. Why don't you treat him like a normal person and not like some retard. He might have asperger but he is just a kid. I have known people with these type of issues before and I just treat them like normal kids. They are normal kids. So unless you see something they are having serious problems with I would say wait till that point to help them. Instead of saying "Hey you got aspergers you must not know how to do anything".
You're welcome. I'm sure you'll do a good job. Just the fact that you ask this question proves you care about these kids. Good luck. :)