Be his friend if he wants you to be, but don't try to fix him. Having Asperger Syndrome doesn't always lead to difficulty in school. Talk to him and listen, learn and respect his boundaries, and don't treat him like a child or like you pity him. Don't try to suppress his symptoms, either. No "quiet hands" bullshit. Autism is part of who he is, not something that just gets in the way of his life.
..Hmm fix him... I don’t know if I'm trying to do that but if you call wanted to help him make friends, hoping that people won’t be mean to him and treat him horribly fixing him then... I'm sorry? I just really want him to enjoy high school as I was able to, with my friends; I want him to have that as well. I know if I didn’t have friends to help me out on my loose ends I wouldn’t have been able to do what I did. Ok I'll remember that I'll try to respect his boundaries. And about treating him as a child well I treat all my freshmen as lil kids! They are so adorable and freshmen’s, I just want to help them in any way I can. I'll try not to baby any of them. I don’t pity him, I hate it when others look down on people, I didn’t have the best life and I know how it feels to be looked down upon I don’t ever want to do that to another, it hurts. Suppress his symptoms? I'm sorry I don’t understand what you mean when you say 'quiet hands?' Ok, I'll keep that in mind.
I'm not offended. I didn't mean that trying to help him make friends and keeping an eye on him in case of bullying is trying to fix him. That was a precaution, not admonishment.
When I say not to try to suppress his symptoms, I mean that you shouldn't do things like trying to stop him from stimming (stimming is stimulating your senses by touching things or going through the same motions repeatedly, such as rocking or repetitive fidgeting) or telling him that he has to behave differently if he wants to make friends. "Quiet hands" is a phrase used to tell autistic people to stop stimming. Don't ever say it. For more information, see: http://juststimming.wordpress.com/2011/10/05/quiet-hands/
There are lots of resources about autism and organisations to help educate people and help autistic people and their families. Stay away from Autism Speaks. They're just awful, and they don't listen to the autistic community. If you want, I can find you some good ones, but I'll need to consult my friend first.
Huh...This post especially makes me think. I kinda "stim", I guess...my doc thought I had ADHD because I did a lot of repetitive things. And I'm not social, either...sometimes it gets weird just thinking about it. And I can talk for hours about one thing I apparently know almost 30000x more about than anyone else. People tell me to change subjects a lot...and most of the time when they make jokes in front of me, I can't tell. Sometimes my feelings even get hurt.
How would someone know if they had Aspergers? Is there, like, a test for it?
they do have the AQ test online, its available on Mayo clinics website. Normal people score around 10-16, and 29 or higher can indicate aspergers, mild autism,to severe autism. I scored a 37.
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Be his friend if he wants you to be, but don't try to fix him. Having Asperger Syndrome doesn't always lead to difficulty in school. Talk to him and listen, learn and respect his boundaries, and don't treat him like a child or like you pity him. Don't try to suppress his symptoms, either. No "quiet hands" bullshit. Autism is part of who he is, not something that just gets in the way of his life.
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..Hmm fix him... I don’t know if I'm trying to do that but if you call wanted to help him make friends, hoping that people won’t be mean to him and treat him horribly fixing him then... I'm sorry? I just really want him to enjoy high school as I was able to, with my friends; I want him to have that as well. I know if I didn’t have friends to help me out on my loose ends I wouldn’t have been able to do what I did. Ok I'll remember that I'll try to respect his boundaries. And about treating him as a child well I treat all my freshmen as lil kids! They are so adorable and freshmen’s, I just want to help them in any way I can. I'll try not to baby any of them. I don’t pity him, I hate it when others look down on people, I didn’t have the best life and I know how it feels to be looked down upon I don’t ever want to do that to another, it hurts. Suppress his symptoms? I'm sorry I don’t understand what you mean when you say 'quiet hands?' Ok, I'll keep that in mind.
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I'm not offended. I didn't mean that trying to help him make friends and keeping an eye on him in case of bullying is trying to fix him. That was a precaution, not admonishment.
When I say not to try to suppress his symptoms, I mean that you shouldn't do things like trying to stop him from stimming (stimming is stimulating your senses by touching things or going through the same motions repeatedly, such as rocking or repetitive fidgeting) or telling him that he has to behave differently if he wants to make friends. "Quiet hands" is a phrase used to tell autistic people to stop stimming. Don't ever say it. For more information, see: http://juststimming.wordpress.com/2011/10/05/quiet-hands/
There are lots of resources about autism and organisations to help educate people and help autistic people and their families. Stay away from Autism Speaks. They're just awful, and they don't listen to the autistic community. If you want, I can find you some good ones, but I'll need to consult my friend first.
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Huh...This post especially makes me think. I kinda "stim", I guess...my doc thought I had ADHD because I did a lot of repetitive things. And I'm not social, either...sometimes it gets weird just thinking about it. And I can talk for hours about one thing I apparently know almost 30000x more about than anyone else. People tell me to change subjects a lot...and most of the time when they make jokes in front of me, I can't tell. Sometimes my feelings even get hurt.
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they do have the AQ test online, its available on Mayo clinics website. Normal people score around 10-16, and 29 or higher can indicate aspergers, mild autism,to severe autism. I scored a 37.
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as for an official test, you could talk to a doctor and ask for one.
Oh, I would never do that, his repetitive actions are a part of him and I have no right to stop it. That would be wonderful, if you do mind please do.