Asian men are the least desirable?

Hello dear friends,

I am a 29 y/o full blood Japanese guy who is born and raised in the Nordics as my parents are immigrants.

I’m 6’2” tall with quite a muscular build and never had problems with dating in person (I started quite late though, at the age of 24 after graduating university).

I decided to try Tinder since there is currently a pandemic going on. The results are horrendous and I barely get any matches at all.

99% on the Nordic tinder are blonde hair, blue eyed girls and these unmatch me instantly if I happen to match with them. The 1% that are left are immigrants, and maybe 10% of that 1% are Asian too.

I don’t necessarily seek Asians, but those are the only ones who would actually message me back or even date me. There 0% chance on anyone who isn’t Asian.

Are Asian guys really that ugly? People don’t even give me a chance to message them before unmatching, which makes me feel very hurt and sad as they never got to know me.

I’m feeling confidence broken and exiled…

Asian men are ok 9
Asian men are undesirable 9
Asian men are lovely 27
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  • Tinybird

    Hi I actually find Asian guys more attractive than others. (Btw I'm a white female) just putting it out there! I was always more attracted to Asian guys

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    • Thanks Tinybird, this really made my day! 😊

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      • Tinybird

        You're welcome, I'm glad :D

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    • Somenormie

      Haha! I'm the same but I am attracted to Asian women.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD

    Loads of people think Asian men are hot and many even fetishize Japanese men specifically.

    You're also tall, _really_ tall for a Japanese man. I'm not saying this is fair but it's true that most women prefer a man who is taller than them. Nordics are somewhat on the taller side and Japanese people on the shorter side. I would make sure your height is advertised in case they're afraid you might be shorter than them. Again, it's not fair, and some women don't mind, but everyone knows this is indeed a fairly pronounced thing, just like everyone knows the majority of men don't as often want to be with a woman taller than them. It's apparently genetic.

    Do they have any cons or anything like that there? If you cosplayed as some sexy anime character the women there would be all over you. They often love Japanese men.

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    • Thanks, very glad to hear! 😊

      The cosplay idea is great! I don’t think I have heard of one locally, but I’ll look it up 👍

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    • Tinybird

      I used to be only attracted to Japanese boys (I never met one though.) And I don't really care about height it's more the weight/thickness of the body I care about like I don't like big chunky bodies or hairy bodies I like skinnier and smooth skin, also soft and cute voices

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    • Somenormie

      Sometimes I've wondered why I fetishize Japanese women despite having talking to some who are my friends.

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    • LornaMae

      Meh, I've had 2 bite-size boyfriends and I liked it! Hahahaha

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      • S0UNDS_WEIRD

        Sure, plenty of women don't mind and some even love it! I'm just saying it's true that many do have a preference against it.

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        • LornaMae

          Yup, just teasing! ;)

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  • LornaMae

    Oh no! Don't believe the votes, I accidentally hit undesirable because I misread as desirable! =^.^=

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  • Meowypowers

    I like asian guys that aren't too cocky

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Ive always found that women usually like to date with in their race more than men. Men dont usually care women 99.9% of the time date their own race

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    • Tinybird

      damn all those BBC p0rnos are lying! (jk I've never watched p0rn)

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      • 1WeirdGuy

        Hate to break it to ya most of that BBC porn is watched by other male weirdos that like to see chics get fucked by black dudes

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  • Rocketrain

    I think it's the ethnicity differences.
    Appearance and the taste of the appearance comes with ethnicity I think. I'm south Asian. Girls here love japanese and korean men. But korean and japanese women hates males here. Western women disgust our looks, two women from Michigan told me that.
    women that you are trying may be not in to that japanese look. May be you need to try different people. Just guessing. Not all is attractive to everyone elses eyes.

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  • BleedingPain

    I dont know if this is racist or not, by my love for anime has made asian (specifically japanese/chinese/ and Korean) men more attractive looking

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  • raisinbran

    Asian women not good enough for you?

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    • They are close to non-existent here

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  • stargazermgj

    This has more to do with where you live than it has to do with you being objectively undesirable. I had the same trouble for years. As a black man, I lived in the American deep south for the first 29 years of my life and had the same experience as you do with women from different ethnic backgrounds. I matched with very few people and when I did they were always black like myself. This only changed for the better when I moved far north where racism exists, but is far less prevalent. As long as I was down south, I was seen as undesirable by most. Things are completely different now though. I've had more luck with women in the past 2 years than I had in the 29 years that preceded combined. I don't know what race relations are like where you live, but my advice to you would be to seriously consider moving and living elsewhere.

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  • miss_jass06

    No, I don't think Asians are ugly and I could really date a guy of any ethnicity as long as he was cool and attractive in my eyes. Maybe most Nordic women are more conservative and prefer dating within their own race? Or maybe there's something else about your profile that scared them off.

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  • Meatballsandwich

    Due to the success of K-pop, I suppose that asian guys have gotten more desireable.

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  • notsaying4life

    maybe they are trying to date their own race and not because you are ugly or something

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Maybe it's the photos you chose, I never heard of Asians having any problem dating lol I'm a white female and I love asian men

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I’ve seen some beautiful Japanese men in my time, screw those racist losers and delete that stupid app. Becoming vain was the best decision of my life and I recommend you do the same, you can start today by looking in the mirror and naming 3 things you like about your appearance. Eventually you will progress to my level of shamelessly checking yourself out in shop windows. I know the staff can see me- and they’re welcome.

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