Normally, I choose my battles. If it's an issue that needs to be settled, and it can be settled, then I am willing to go after it (although sometimes emotion is involved as I am impulsive and still struggle with my temper).
However, even if the issue NEEDS to be settled, and the elephant in the room NEEDS to be addressed, if I know that my starting anything over it will only anger the person and achieve no positive result, I'm not going to pursue it. Conflict must lead to resolution.
If I am going to start conflict for the sake of conflict, either I'm feeling like an asshole or I wish to vent. Although sometimes I start conflict without knowing it (eg. Someone complains about their boyfriend being abusive towards them and my response is "why don't you just leave him?"). In my mind, when someone comes to me with a problem, it is because they want insight or help solving it. I never understood the concept of folks complaining just to complain (unless we're talking about something permanent like a death or disability). If you don't want to solve the problem then like... why are you even thinking about it? Obviously you're cool with things v.v
Are you more of an argumentative or avoid conflict type of person?
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Depends.
Normally, I choose my battles. If it's an issue that needs to be settled, and it can be settled, then I am willing to go after it (although sometimes emotion is involved as I am impulsive and still struggle with my temper).
However, even if the issue NEEDS to be settled, and the elephant in the room NEEDS to be addressed, if I know that my starting anything over it will only anger the person and achieve no positive result, I'm not going to pursue it. Conflict must lead to resolution.
If I am going to start conflict for the sake of conflict, either I'm feeling like an asshole or I wish to vent. Although sometimes I start conflict without knowing it (eg. Someone complains about their boyfriend being abusive towards them and my response is "why don't you just leave him?"). In my mind, when someone comes to me with a problem, it is because they want insight or help solving it. I never understood the concept of folks complaining just to complain (unless we're talking about something permanent like a death or disability). If you don't want to solve the problem then like... why are you even thinking about it? Obviously you're cool with things v.v