Are we too horrible?
We have a girl here at uni. I won't divulge her real name, but my friend came up with a nickname for her so we can talk about her infront of her without her knowing. That name is xxxxxxx.
We are on an exchange year abroad. There are a good group of us here from the same home country, so we mainly stick together for drinking & socialising etc. The exception is xxxxxxx. She has no concept of how to socialise properly, and this has clearly been a stumbling block throughout her life. I recall talking to her at the exchange meeting before the year started, and she stuttered about how she had decided to live in university halls again for the second year, "for the social aspect". No one does this in England for any reason other than they have no friends to get a house with in second year. Alarm bells rang immediately. It turned out a friend I made over here knew one of her flatmates in second year, who stated "oh...hahaha...we had some FUN with *xxxxxxx* in second year *rolls eyes*". I also remember looking at her fb photos of her 21st birthday. There was one other person there. So she came abroad clearly for a fresh, third-time-lucky start. It failed.
She appears to have no friends at all, and attempts to socialise with our group despite what any normal person would recognise as distain being directed at her. Maybe she's just so desperate she doesn't care. She often wanders out into the courtyard where I am socialising and tries to join in. Fair play for trying, but she can't articulate herself! She mumbles, stutters, and talks very fast when she gets a sentance going at people who clearly aren't interested. Her sentances never make any sense anyway. Sometimes she'll be telling a story for a minute or so, then just before what appears to be the punchline she trails off and says something along the lines of 'oh...I forgot what I was going to say.' or 'Nevermind'. NO YOU DIDN'T! Its infuriating and a waste of people's time.
I remember when my friend got smashed & xxxxxxx had come and sat in the periphery of our drinking game, stuttering and mumbling at anyone who got caught in the tractor beam of her lazy eyes. He turned to her and shouted 'good night XXXXXXX, fuck off!'. A room of 20 or so people burst into laughter directed at her, and even the good samaritans who at first tried to say how wrong it was to do that gave up and succumbed to laughter.
Firstly, It doesn't help that she's one of the ugliest things I've ever seen, she looks like someone who may have once been normal enough looking but died a month ago and has been decomposing since. Very strange. Spots and pus everywhere also at age 22. Basically I know how horrible this all sounds. But she is one of the weirdest, most unlikable and annoying people I have ever met! Would you act in the same way towards her? What should be my course of action? Bear in mind befriending her would be social suicide with all - they say kids are cruel, but adults just hide it better.