Are sex workers immoral?

I hear from some people that sex workers are only ever objectified, that their work is degrading, that only desperate women with drug problems do it, that it's nothing to be proud of and that no woman should ever feel empowered by it.

In my past I did it to raise and support my sister who I raised on my own. I saw a lot of the negative sides back then, so believe me I am aware of the potential abuse, degrading behavior, danger, and of people doing it to support drug or other unhealthy habits.

Now, I work for myself, I do a few discrete ads and my clientele is largely an assortment of people who treat me very well. I work with a few disabled people, injured in Afghanistan or born with a condition, who find it difficult to find intimacy with women. I work with a few women who are scared of finding a like-minded partner, or who are too busy working to have much time for dating. The majority (about 60%) of my clients and I don't even have sex, they're just looking for companionship and intimacy in some other form.

I feel empowered by my job. I love it. I know so few people that love what they do for a living. But I also understand the opposing viewpoints. My question is - what do you guys think? Comments are appreciated!

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  • I see what you are doing as therapy.

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  • I think the majority of sex work is objectifying, at least by my working definition of "objectifying". Sex work is almost always synonymous with sex without any real, strong emotional connection or even mutual attraction. That is by it's very nature objectifying; being used for your body. It sounds from your description of what you do that you might be an exception to that rule (although arguably the parts that are an exception aren't even sex work), but I don't believe you're in the majority. Consciously allowing yourself to be objectified is not morally wrong, either. It's just a lifestyle choice some people choose and some people enjoy.

    It's only degrading if you feel degraded. Nobody can tell you that something is degrading, that's for you to decide. Sex work is obviously not innately degrading, although it is for some people.

    I think the sex workers who do find it objectifying and degrading or not immoral people either. They're just doing what they need to do to survive, and there's nothing wrong with them for doing that. What is immoral is a system in which some people are forced to do a job they feel dehumanizes them just to stay alive. There's nothing wrong with being a sex worker, ever, but there is something wrong somewhere when people are forced into sex work.

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    • Perfect answer, I agree entirely. I guess I am "objectified" in a sense but it's not something that I feel damages me. (I may even enjoy it a little)

      I hate the idea that someone is forced into doing ANY job, though. Freedom is very important. Thank you for the good answer!

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  • It depends. I find no problem with people prostituting themselves, as long as they're not working under a "pimp" of some sort or doing it to earn money for drugs, which can harm their body; I find it fine as a long as they're working by themselves and doing it just to earn money to support themselves, friends, or family (just like you, although, you don't seem exactly as a sex worker. You seem more of a sort of "intimacy service?" Basically for companionship).

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  • There is some very bad sides to this line of work. For the girls,they never know what kind of person will be they're next client. It could be a sick and twisted person looking to hurt them or just a normal guy looking to get laid. I have been a client many times and have seen many different personalities from drug addicts to single moms and even wives with knowing husbands. People who have no knowledge of these woman will just think of them in a negative way. I think that if you are an adult and not forced into it by someone else then that's okay. No one can tell you what makes you happy it is your life. I think it is fine and you shouldn't be ashamed but making other people think that is going to be near impossibe and that is too bad.

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  • If I were female and had no marketable skills and was attractive, I would consider it to support myself. AIDS is the downside, so condoms a must. And a pistol under the mattress. would you do phone sex with me? Thanks.

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    • Haha, nope! That whole thing about downsides? I gotta trust someone and get to know them first. And honestly, whether you meant to or not, the notion that it's implied I have no marketable skills is kind of a turn-off. But thanks for answering!

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      • Of course you have marketable skills. Meant conventional, legal everywhere skills. Oral and vaginal sex are marketable.

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        • Yeah, the super cheesy "witty" insults not doin' it for me. At all :P

          See profile pic for final response.

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  • it depends on where they're plying their trade to be honest.

    In some cities "pimps" often run the show, taking runaway boys and girls and pretending to be their protector, in exchange for being sex toys for sale. the pimps are not gentle and polite in this... if the boys and girls don't earn enough they can be abused, beaten, raped.

    in many cases they also end up mixed with drug use - either forced, or as a means to escape what they're trapped by.

    This is of course an extreme contrast from the prostitution in Nevada where it's legal. In NV, the "staff" has to be medically examined on a regular basis, and you can sometimes even find porn stars taking a turn.

    The women and men here often only have to work one week a month and net 100K easily.

    So... a lot of this is simply based on location

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  • I don't like the idea of selling sex, but it is your body and you do whatever you want with it. Also I don't think it HAS to do something with moral, even if it can be related to.

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