Yes, they seem like bad parents.
Yes, you seem like a whiny brat.
Emotional neglect & abuse can be just as damaging to a child's psychological soundness as physical abuse. Providing children with shelter and toys is only one aspect of parenting, and it doesn't mean they should neglect the rest of a child's needs. Just because some children grew up with worse, doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel like they've done you wrong.
You may never get them to change. You may never have a normal relationship with them. You might even distance yourself from them once you live on your own, only speaking to them on rare occasions.
So then, what can you do about it? Change yourself. Don't wallow in self-pity. Feel angry for not having more supportive parents, but then move past it. Love them for the people they are, instead of the people you wish they could have been. Understand who they are as people, not just as your parents, and what kind of life experiences made them into the people they are today. Make your own perfect family when you're older.
Are my parents bad parents or am I just whiny?
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Yes, they seem like bad parents.
Yes, you seem like a whiny brat.
Emotional neglect & abuse can be just as damaging to a child's psychological soundness as physical abuse. Providing children with shelter and toys is only one aspect of parenting, and it doesn't mean they should neglect the rest of a child's needs. Just because some children grew up with worse, doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel like they've done you wrong.
You may never get them to change. You may never have a normal relationship with them. You might even distance yourself from them once you live on your own, only speaking to them on rare occasions.
So then, what can you do about it? Change yourself. Don't wallow in self-pity. Feel angry for not having more supportive parents, but then move past it. Love them for the people they are, instead of the people you wish they could have been. Understand who they are as people, not just as your parents, and what kind of life experiences made them into the people they are today. Make your own perfect family when you're older.