Are my parents bad parents or am i just whiny?

Yes, they seem like bad parents.
Yes, you seem like a whiny brat.

Emotional neglect & abuse can be just as damaging to a child's psychological soundness as physical abuse. Providing children with shelter and toys is only one aspect of parenting, and it doesn't mean they should neglect the rest of a child's needs. Just because some children grew up with worse, doesn't mean you don't have the right to feel like they've done you wrong.

You may never get them to change. You may never have a normal relationship with them. You might even distance yourself from them once you live on your own, only speaking to them on rare occasions.

So then, what can you do about it? Change yourself. Don't wallow in self-pity. Feel angry for not having more supportive parents, but then move past it. Love them for the people they are, instead of the people you wish they could have been. Understand who they are as people, not just as your parents, and what kind of life experiences made them into the people they are today. Make your own perfect family when you're older.

Grow up.
I can't stant whinny parent blamers.
They, parents, are only human and as you grow older you have a choice to either stupidly and lazily blame them for your failures or you can get over yourself and get it together.

I too went through a parent blaming phase, I think most peple do?

You sound like you kinda feel bad for giving them so much trouble.

They could'nt have been so self absorbed if they had the patience to talk to you, stand by you and bail you out when you needed their help. Compared to some other peoples folks they do not sound that bad.

I'm not going to call you emo but to be honest it's a bit of both.

While your parents weren't particularly paying you attention, you should have been mature and old enough to not pick fights with your father. And since your mother has anxiety, that won't have helped her feelings.

But I don't believe you cut for no good reason, it was probably because of all the frustration and annoyance you were feeling.

Sounds like your a little spoiled. Maybe your parents aren't perfect but they kept you alive and in a middle class income home for all these years right? You certainly didn't get the xbox on your own.

25K to keep you out of juvie? Put yourself in your parent's shoes for a minute and then ask yourself what you would do to a kid like that if you were them? If i were you, id fucking kill myself and stop causing them anguish (actually I'm not so unlike you)

I think its a mix of the three of u u r a whiny and they are annoying and u probably didnt cut or do something to go to juvi for no reason i think u cut because of frustration and u did something jubi worth because they dont give u money or because frustation

I'd be distant with my kid if he caused all that trouble, too. You sound like a pain in the ass. Become a better son, and maybe they'll change their tone. They're only human.

My parents are a bit like your parents and I nearly went to jail too. If your parents are anything like my parents then there's no point trying to change them. Try not to dwell on it, they can only change themselves.

i think your parents were fake all the time
and still are and their not gonna change
i completely understand you am going trought the same thing my parents dont really care about my brothers or me. they think am a piece of shit. that could die any moment and they could act like nothing ever happened. they also think am a bitch. but o well. i know both of them are going to hell. and that makes me feel calm when i think of this.
but i hope you feel better.

It's a bit of both

I would not call any parent that spent 25k to keep you out of the Hall a bad parent. I work at a juvenile hall and I can tell you about bad parents all day long.
I also know about spoiled kids who think they are entitled to everything in the world because they are used to getting what they want. The only thing your parents have done wrong is give you too much.
You need to develop a sense of responsibility and learn some respect.
That said, many teenagers are just like you, and lots of them grow up to be decent people. Hopefully you are one of those.

hormones.

It sounds like u r a problem child. Sure yet shoulda paid more attention. But they provided and u turned out to be a mess up. Start acting mature. U r old enough to know how to act

It doesn't seem like they were as supportive as they could have been with you. Sure they provided a comfortable material life, but it seems like they neglected your emotional care. I don't think it's whiny- all children need to feel loved and valued by their parents and you didn't get that from what you say. Seems they just threw toys your way and expected you to shut up. Not saying you're totally blameless. You seem to know where you made your mistakes as well. The whole family is a bit disfunctional. Are you old enough now that you can talk to them as an adult and get some closure and initiate some mutual apologies?

Boy, that's right for you, boy.

I agreed with "bloodyvaginalbelch" lol but I do agree with the person who said grow up boy

Grow up boy

Classic case: while they provided for you, they were never really around for you. You shouldn't be so dependant on them, they expect you to grow up.

^absolutely agree
And YOU are probably the reason your mom has anxiety