OK so your mom is a spendaholic who squanders money. If I were you I would offer my dad money for my keep and not her. He is the one effectively paying the price at the end of the day - but he chose her, not you. Or you could sell the stuff she doesn't use on ebay and offer your dad that money. Make sure she sees you offering your money to your dad and don't encourage this stupid behaviour.
I have a friend who was so happy for me to be her friend coz I was lending her money. She had about $4000 a month to spend, yet told me she never had any money. I used to buy her groceries and pay for all her childcare and lend her $100s every month but she was getting further and further into debt with me. However, I found out how much she really had to spend and that she was spending it every day on crap - so I stopped lending her money. She's not as friendly with me anymore ;o) I wonder why?
Lately I have been telling her that I am broke and in a lot of debt. My dad does not care to have my money. He doesn't care to be paid because I work and go to school and that's enough for him. Granted I've moved out, haha. He hates it that I felt the need to enable her but people tell me that she is my mother and I owe her :(
Forget what people tell you - you didn't ask to be born, that was her choice. She has more than enough money and debt, so it's not as if you are easing the burden. I said to offer it to your dad coz I knew he wouldn't take it :o) so why should she?!
Maybe if she's sick in bed you could disconnect her internet? I don't know how it's set up in your home but if she's older she may not be computer literate enough to sort it out quickly.
This is truly sad coz I know of a woman just like this and the only time she got out of bed and was miraculously 'fit and well' was when her husband died. He too, was enabling her :o( Your dad is busy with his business and happy enough not to listen to her nagging.
It's very hard to watch people destroy themselves and those around them :o( Give her nothing more, start sliding the stuff out to sell.
Sweet F**k - If I was him I'd go without before I'd pay her like a prostitute!! She's a disgusting human being. He should live a totally separate life from her, maybe find himself a nice female friend to go out to lunch and the cinema with. That might force her out of bed :o)
I was thinking about you and felt that you somehow feel to blame for your dad marrying this fool. Pease don't! They were both consenting adults, she just took advantage of his good nature over the years.
This is ridiculous! I don't know about in your State but it only takes two family signatures to get someone certified as mentally ill - maybe you two could stick her in a mental hospital if she can't get better on her own.
hahaha I'd love to be playing mind-games with her!
1st thing to go is her TV in the bedroom coz of her migraines. Then stop all her money - maybe give her $10-20 dollars a day, every day that she's up and about, NOT lying in bed. What would she need money for if she's in bed?!
Well, she wanted a raise and he wouldn't give it to her. When she told me that her plan to charge him for sex to get a raise worked she smiled and laughed about it as one would a victory. Hooray she held out on her husband for a higher allowance. I was so disgusted. I couldn't talk to her for weeks.
Personally I think she should just admit to my Dad that he is just her bank. His dad is sick and dying and all she says is "I know he is stressed out" and goes on about her problems. I love her dearly but I almost wish they never met. My dad is a great guy. The fact that he never cheated is a testiment to how awesome he is. Thanks for talking to me about it. We all tried our best. I left but my Dad is stuck there.
The woman has found her perfect job whilst lying on her back. Ugh!!!
Your poor dad needs to go away on holiday or to stay with his own dad for a few weeks - taking his money with him. He will soon find out how well she can really cope when left to it.
You may find that your dad is just biding his time until his children are up and away, before he makes his own escape. Otherwise he has learned to live that existence :o(
Are my Mom's spending habits normal and should I give her my money?
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OK so your mom is a spendaholic who squanders money. If I were you I would offer my dad money for my keep and not her. He is the one effectively paying the price at the end of the day - but he chose her, not you. Or you could sell the stuff she doesn't use on ebay and offer your dad that money. Make sure she sees you offering your money to your dad and don't encourage this stupid behaviour.
I have a friend who was so happy for me to be her friend coz I was lending her money. She had about $4000 a month to spend, yet told me she never had any money. I used to buy her groceries and pay for all her childcare and lend her $100s every month but she was getting further and further into debt with me. However, I found out how much she really had to spend and that she was spending it every day on crap - so I stopped lending her money. She's not as friendly with me anymore ;o) I wonder why?
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Lately I have been telling her that I am broke and in a lot of debt. My dad does not care to have my money. He doesn't care to be paid because I work and go to school and that's enough for him. Granted I've moved out, haha. He hates it that I felt the need to enable her but people tell me that she is my mother and I owe her :(
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Forget what people tell you - you didn't ask to be born, that was her choice. She has more than enough money and debt, so it's not as if you are easing the burden. I said to offer it to your dad coz I knew he wouldn't take it :o) so why should she?!
Maybe if she's sick in bed you could disconnect her internet? I don't know how it's set up in your home but if she's older she may not be computer literate enough to sort it out quickly.
This is truly sad coz I know of a woman just like this and the only time she got out of bed and was miraculously 'fit and well' was when her husband died. He too, was enabling her :o( Your dad is busy with his business and happy enough not to listen to her nagging.
It's very hard to watch people destroy themselves and those around them :o( Give her nothing more, start sliding the stuff out to sell.
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I wish I'd have mentioned that she charges him for sex. A weekly fee of $50.
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Sweet F**k - If I was him I'd go without before I'd pay her like a prostitute!! She's a disgusting human being. He should live a totally separate life from her, maybe find himself a nice female friend to go out to lunch and the cinema with. That might force her out of bed :o)
I was thinking about you and felt that you somehow feel to blame for your dad marrying this fool. Pease don't! They were both consenting adults, she just took advantage of his good nature over the years.
This is ridiculous! I don't know about in your State but it only takes two family signatures to get someone certified as mentally ill - maybe you two could stick her in a mental hospital if she can't get better on her own.
hahaha I'd love to be playing mind-games with her!
1st thing to go is her TV in the bedroom coz of her migraines. Then stop all her money - maybe give her $10-20 dollars a day, every day that she's up and about, NOT lying in bed. What would she need money for if she's in bed?!
Oh, close the door and forget about her!!!
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Well, she wanted a raise and he wouldn't give it to her. When she told me that her plan to charge him for sex to get a raise worked she smiled and laughed about it as one would a victory. Hooray she held out on her husband for a higher allowance. I was so disgusted. I couldn't talk to her for weeks.
Personally I think she should just admit to my Dad that he is just her bank. His dad is sick and dying and all she says is "I know he is stressed out" and goes on about her problems. I love her dearly but I almost wish they never met. My dad is a great guy. The fact that he never cheated is a testiment to how awesome he is. Thanks for talking to me about it. We all tried our best. I left but my Dad is stuck there.
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OMG She told you about it!!
The woman has found her perfect job whilst lying on her back. Ugh!!!
Your poor dad needs to go away on holiday or to stay with his own dad for a few weeks - taking his money with him. He will soon find out how well she can really cope when left to it.
You may find that your dad is just biding his time until his children are up and away, before he makes his own escape. Otherwise he has learned to live that existence :o(