This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. I am dealing with this situation right now and I am accused of being the manipulator although I've made my beliefs and intentions perfectly clear in this case... I'm being told that my unwillingness to reconcile is due to my childishness rather than my STATED reason (that I respect myself too much to be physically/verbally abused and that the physical abuse is still fresh in my mind despite it having happened 6 months ago).
I'm a bit confused. Do you want to reconcile or not? There really isn't anything one can do if the other party doesn't want the relationship to continue. Talking, couples therapy, nothing, will do any more than prolong the inevitable.
It's so much easier to just call it quits, before the ugly scenes turn 2 people into enemies.
I lost 2 wives I loved dearly because they wanted me to live the white picket fence, 2.3 kids and a minivan life. I knew I couldn't do it, so rather than several years of us all being miserable, I ended things quickly and without fuss. It hurt. It hurt like hell, but it was better than the alternative; years of ugliness.
Good luck and remember; your sanity is more important than some injured feelings or a failed relationship.
Are most sensitive, caring, affectionate guys like this?
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This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. I am dealing with this situation right now and I am accused of being the manipulator although I've made my beliefs and intentions perfectly clear in this case... I'm being told that my unwillingness to reconcile is due to my childishness rather than my STATED reason (that I respect myself too much to be physically/verbally abused and that the physical abuse is still fresh in my mind despite it having happened 6 months ago).
Any take on my situation?
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I'm a bit confused. Do you want to reconcile or not? There really isn't anything one can do if the other party doesn't want the relationship to continue. Talking, couples therapy, nothing, will do any more than prolong the inevitable.
It's so much easier to just call it quits, before the ugly scenes turn 2 people into enemies.
I lost 2 wives I loved dearly because they wanted me to live the white picket fence, 2.3 kids and a minivan life. I knew I couldn't do it, so rather than several years of us all being miserable, I ended things quickly and without fuss. It hurt. It hurt like hell, but it was better than the alternative; years of ugliness.
Good luck and remember; your sanity is more important than some injured feelings or a failed relationship.
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If you'll look at the post above this, you'll understand why I must refrain from answering your question.
Anything I say to you about it at this point will provoke further abuse, including the original message. Thank you for your advice.
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No abuse and please csn you please stop
Well if you would just talk and be just a civil talk and not get so upset