Sounds like you are also attracted to very immature guys. Trying to get an ex back by trying to make her feel sorry/guilty for them is exactly backwards in reality and childish in the extreme.
There are plenty of mature sensitive guys out there, but they may not all be as easily manipulated as the type you seem to prefer.
This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. I am dealing with this situation right now and I am accused of being the manipulator although I've made my beliefs and intentions perfectly clear in this case... I'm being told that my unwillingness to reconcile is due to my childishness rather than my STATED reason (that I respect myself too much to be physically/verbally abused and that the physical abuse is still fresh in my mind despite it having happened 6 months ago).
I'm a bit confused. Do you want to reconcile or not? There really isn't anything one can do if the other party doesn't want the relationship to continue. Talking, couples therapy, nothing, will do any more than prolong the inevitable.
It's so much easier to just call it quits, before the ugly scenes turn 2 people into enemies.
I lost 2 wives I loved dearly because they wanted me to live the white picket fence, 2.3 kids and a minivan life. I knew I couldn't do it, so rather than several years of us all being miserable, I ended things quickly and without fuss. It hurt. It hurt like hell, but it was better than the alternative; years of ugliness.
Good luck and remember; your sanity is more important than some injured feelings or a failed relationship.
Your comment will probably lead me to get another question. Are all loving, caring, affectionate, guys easy to manipulate :(
I do not seek guys who are easily to manipulate!
Let me put it this way, though I've not dated any guys, I do not believe all loving, caring, affectionate, guys are crybaby wimps. Some actually have a backbone, though it seems you haven't met any yet.
Are most sensitive, caring, affectionate guys like this?
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Sounds like you are also attracted to very immature guys. Trying to get an ex back by trying to make her feel sorry/guilty for them is exactly backwards in reality and childish in the extreme.
There are plenty of mature sensitive guys out there, but they may not all be as easily manipulated as the type you seem to prefer.
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This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. I am dealing with this situation right now and I am accused of being the manipulator although I've made my beliefs and intentions perfectly clear in this case... I'm being told that my unwillingness to reconcile is due to my childishness rather than my STATED reason (that I respect myself too much to be physically/verbally abused and that the physical abuse is still fresh in my mind despite it having happened 6 months ago).
Any take on my situation?
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I'm a bit confused. Do you want to reconcile or not? There really isn't anything one can do if the other party doesn't want the relationship to continue. Talking, couples therapy, nothing, will do any more than prolong the inevitable.
It's so much easier to just call it quits, before the ugly scenes turn 2 people into enemies.
I lost 2 wives I loved dearly because they wanted me to live the white picket fence, 2.3 kids and a minivan life. I knew I couldn't do it, so rather than several years of us all being miserable, I ended things quickly and without fuss. It hurt. It hurt like hell, but it was better than the alternative; years of ugliness.
Good luck and remember; your sanity is more important than some injured feelings or a failed relationship.
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If you'll look at the post above this, you'll understand why I must refrain from answering your question.
Anything I say to you about it at this point will provoke further abuse, including the original message. Thank you for your advice.
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No abuse and please csn you please stop
Well if you would just talk and be just a civil talk and not get so upset
Your comment will probably lead me to get another question. Are all loving, caring, affectionate, guys easy to manipulate :(
I do not seek guys who are easily to manipulate!
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Let me put it this way, though I've not dated any guys, I do not believe all loving, caring, affectionate, guys are crybaby wimps. Some actually have a backbone, though it seems you haven't met any yet.