From what I've observed it is usually because women don't date people that they've known awhile. I see women date men whom they have only known for 2 months because male best friends usually get "friend-zoned." I have no idea why women do not consider dating the person that they've known a long time as opposed to the person they've only known for a short time. Maybe it's the mystery factor.
Personally I could give a little light onto why some women don't date their friends. I had the opportunity to with one of my childhood friends and I was very very fond of him, but honestly was scared what would happen *after* the relationship ended - would I lose my friend of so many years? I didn't want to be the one to break his heart or he break mine. Plus, we're always more open about our flaws with the guy we're dating than with our friends - would he think less of me? So, instead of facing those what-ifs and gambling on the chances of a young-love fairy tale, I stuck with the safe option: keep the happy friendship I have now.
Yeah, I guess psychologically its easier to "justify" the guy I barely know with a "what the heck?" whereas its much harder for the friend because there is something to lose there. Though its contradictory, considering that if they're your friend, you already know that you get along. *sigh* no one ever said we always make the smart choice lol.
Ya growing up is pretty tough. However, I think that we sort of need to make mistakes to make sure that they don't happen again. I heard somewhere that women won't realize what a catch a guy is until their mid 20s because they've made enough mistakes to see who is worth going after, which seems nice.
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From what I've observed it is usually because women don't date people that they've known awhile. I see women date men whom they have only known for 2 months because male best friends usually get "friend-zoned." I have no idea why women do not consider dating the person that they've known a long time as opposed to the person they've only known for a short time. Maybe it's the mystery factor.
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Personally I could give a little light onto why some women don't date their friends. I had the opportunity to with one of my childhood friends and I was very very fond of him, but honestly was scared what would happen *after* the relationship ended - would I lose my friend of so many years? I didn't want to be the one to break his heart or he break mine. Plus, we're always more open about our flaws with the guy we're dating than with our friends - would he think less of me? So, instead of facing those what-ifs and gambling on the chances of a young-love fairy tale, I stuck with the safe option: keep the happy friendship I have now.
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That's pretty interesting. I guess that there are a lot of what ifs. I can understand that. I'm glad that you still have your friendship.
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Yeah, I guess psychologically its easier to "justify" the guy I barely know with a "what the heck?" whereas its much harder for the friend because there is something to lose there. Though its contradictory, considering that if they're your friend, you already know that you get along. *sigh* no one ever said we always make the smart choice lol.
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By the way, this is extremely off topic, but based on your profile picture, I have to say that you have some amazing eyes.
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Lol thanks :-) they're my favorite feature.
Ya growing up is pretty tough. However, I think that we sort of need to make mistakes to make sure that they don't happen again. I heard somewhere that women won't realize what a catch a guy is until their mid 20s because they've made enough mistakes to see who is worth going after, which seems nice.
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I could that that's pretty true. Mid 20s is when we really start looking at relationships & long term potential, instead of short term satisfaction.
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Awesome.
I'd agree on thaat mystery factor. Then again, it sometimes works both ways. Some guys friend-zone girls.
I personally don't mind if i get friend-zoned, it just means another person to hang out with.
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That's a good way to look at being friend-zoned.